Is Tantra Too Sexy For YouTube?

On June 15th, 2012 we officially launched our Authentic Tantra Online Education Program to a world-wide audience.

As part of our promotion, we enjoy having video trailers of some of the course content so that you, our audience, can have a better idea of what it is we are actually offering you.

We offer detailed instruction in G-spot-Yoni massage for sexual healing & awakening the multi-orgasmic potential of every woman.

As we are doing the demonstrations LIVE, we were thrilled to capture on film myself (Devi Ward) go through the process of an actual Authentic Tantric healing during the session.

We created a video trailer for this particular course that includes footage of the beginning and end of the G-spot-Yoni Massage healing process, so that people would have a chance to see the natural and authentic beauty of this process.

The video trailer contains NO visible nudity, no explicit sexual content, no genital visuals, nothing that is actually “pornographic” in nature.

What you DO see, is Tantric Breathing with my partner, heart-centered connection, emotional intimacy, and me crying and releasing emotional sexual trauma, while my partner lovingly holds space for healing.

And yet, YouTube banned this video, not once but TWICE, on the grounds that it’s content was “pornographic and inappropriate”.

I appealed their decision, as they clearly states in their content guideline that “YouTube makes exceptions regarding nudity for appropriate educational, documentary, artistic and scientific contexts, but only in limited circumstances where the purpose of posting is clear and any nudity it is not sexual in nature.

And yet, when I did a youtube search for “naked girls” these are some of the video’s that came up:

Big Tits Boob Ass Shakingwhich features a 12-16 year old girl in g-string panties, being explicitly sexually suggestive

Sexy Strip Tease Naked Porn Featuring a young woman stripping for a porn interview

Apparently these video’s are NOT considered abnormally sexually explicit or suggestive, and our Tantra Education Trailer is, maybe because you can see my partners hand covering my genitals.

Apparently that isn’t appropriate for public consumption.

What do YOU think?

Is our Tantra Trailer too sexy for YouTube, or is the problem on their end, with the powers that be?

Leave your comment below or share on Facebook!

What is Tantric Sex?

Everything you ever wanted to know about Tantric Sex.

What it is, Where it came from, and How it works.

Described in detail by Authentic Tantra Educator, Jacques Drouin of Authentic Tantra.com, with stunning visuals to embellish the experience.

Find out for yourself what Tantric Sex is all about!

Glories of God? Retain Your Semen!

As Gedun Chopel said, “if a man cannot retain his semen, a woman will never know the glories of passion”.

Glory by the way is translated as “lights, the lights of God”.

 Men are capable of 5 different types of orgasm!

Men can and DO orgasm without ejaculating.

Ejaculation is just ONE  flavor of orgasm!

In brief; a man squirts, losing his jing and passion, the loving is over, now he has to recover, which takes 4 to 8 days (by age).

He is turned inward energetically and… is not really available to his lover.

Also, she is unsatisfied and frustrated. The average time of penetration, until ejaculation is between 2 & 10 minutes. Think about it….it takes most people longer to brush their teeth!

By retaining he can make love for as long as he wants, and as he orgasms w/out squirt, he becomes stronger, healthier, and more present.

His orgasms feed his lover in many ways, and she is satisfied and happy w/ him.

He is not depleted and remains emotionally present w/out withdrawal.

This has a powerful effect on relationships!

The connection that results from such lovemaking is vastly deep and clear, blissful in fact.

And, he has no loss of desire for her, wanting her more than ever, and he is ready for her whenever she desires.

How do you think a woman will feel when a man takes several hours to pleasure and delight her in so many ways her head spins, and then he makes love to her until she has literally blown her mind?

Interested in finding out?

Article  written by Jacques Drouin

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Tantra 101- The Sex Education You Didn’t Get in School

Tantra…a loaded word in today’s society. Misconceptions abound, due to the many different interpretations of what Tantric practice actually is.

For some, Tantra is about learning to communicate more authentically in their relationships. For others it means learning to give & receive heart centered touch.

For many it is a path of sexual healing and sensual empowerment, and in some cases, Tantra is simply another word for hand-job.

In the Western world, what Tantra actually IS seems to depend on who is offering the service and their particular orientation to the path. I was fortunate as I embarked upon my Tantric Journey, to encounter instructors who had authentic methods to share, and were committed to engaging those methods for the purpose of healing, transformation, and liberation.

Tantra was for me, and continues to be, the sexual education that we all should have had, but didn’t get.

The absence of REAL sexual education in our culture occurs for a variety of reasons, first and foremost being the fact that, although many of the physiological and psychological benefits of Tantric sexual practices have been “scientifically” or medically proven, they are not common knowledge.

As a result, awareness of these methods (and their benefits), are not yet integrated into the conventional western approach to sexuality, which is where our so-called “sexual education” comes from.

The highest purpose for Tantric Sexual Practice, at least according to Vajrayana Buddhism, is the realization of  voidness, or enlightenment.

This is achieved not through warm fuzzy feelings and deep eye-gazing (though those may occur), but through the application of physical techniques designed to enhance and prolong sexual pleasure, as well as meditative practices engaged, during the act of physical union.

Which are all great and wonderful things, but how does that actually lead to any sort of realization?

It was explained to me like this; at the moment of orgasm, the “winds” or moving energies of the genitals, brush the central channel, which is the core of our life force.When this happens, we get a glimpse or taste of voidness,.. i.e. enlightenment.

Think of that moment of orgasm, those few brief seconds of bliss, and that internal sense of freedom, expansiveness & joy… not to mention pleasure! That momentary experience is just a hint of what is possible.

Imagine extending that fleeting moment of orgasm to last several minutes, sometimes hours. Imagine experiencing the bliss of orgasm over and over again during one lovemaking session, and having the tools in your hands to repeat that experience as often as you’d like.

Quite a different state of affairs than our conventional “sex ed”.

And all of that is just a description of the mechanics, relating to the esoteric aspect of Tantra.

So what happens on the physical level during sexuality?

When human beings engage in sexual activity, the body begins producing a rich abundance of life-giving and anti-aging hormones and chemistries in the body. Some of these chemistries are not produced in any other way!

The very act of becoming sexually aroused initiates this bio-chemical process, and the more time we are able to spend in this state of sexual arousal and enjoyment, the more these life-giving chemistries are able to permeate our very cells.

A stronger immune system, increased cell renewal, improved brain function and prolonged life-span are just a few of the benefits you can count on experiencing as a result of Tantric practices.

And then, there are the emotional and psychological benefits that occur through Tantra.

We humans tend to store emotional and psychological traumas in the body and sexual organs. An emotional/psychological trauma can be as severe as physical or sexual abuse, or as seemingly minute as being emotionally rejected or hurt in some way.

Our life experiences leave imprints upon us, whether positive or negative.

The energy patterns of these imprints are held in our bodies and may inhibit our ability to relate freely with the present moment and our partner.

Tantric practices often take this into account, employing many methods of deepening the sense of connection and presence within oneself and partner. This facilitates an environment of safety and trust, which is essential for deep healing to occur.

In this environment, techniques such as vulva, yoni, g-spot and sacred sector massage can be practiced with depth and presence, and the potential for life-altering transformation can be realized.

Freedom of sexual expression, and fullness of sensual enjoyment can then be more easily and regularly experienced.

What I LOVE about Tantric practice, is that the methods are simple, easy and so very effective.

Yes, it takes courage to embark upon a path of growth. Whether you are interested in Tantra for “spiritual realization” or you simply want better sex, in order to get from here to there, some sort of growth must occur.

BUT, with the correct methods and tools, that growth can be rapid and ever so rewarding.

Like any new skill that we learn, Tantra takes time and practice (but what a FUN thing to practice!) and it is a commitment to a new way of life…a better way of life in my opinion. Time…practice… patience… growth, reward, joy, and an ever increasing sense of  fulfillment in life.

I’ll buy that!

Register for your FREE Authentic Tantra Online Education Course and begin learning Authentic Tantra in the comfort & privacy of your own home, no matter where you are!

I’ll Show You Mine….Take 2

With the goal of debunking society’s artificial standards for normalcy and beauty in female genitalia, Show Off Books released its first book, I’ll Show You Mine. A unique resource tool, ISYM contains 60 women shown in life-size full color photographs coupled with in-their-own-words stories of their experiences of sexuality in our society

 

 

Devis’ Vagina Monologue – Take 2

My Name is Devi and this is my Yoni.

Until very recently, my primary relationship with my Yoni was one of subtle shame, though if you had asked me at the time, I would have described the feeling as “shy”. Shy, and slightly embarrassed, and in absolute fear about communicating verbally to a man about which sensations were pleasurable, and which were not. I would not have described myself as sexually repressed in any way, quite the opposite in fact. I considered myself very sexually open and expressive, and probably was by conventional standards.  During the 2-7 minutes of sexual intercourse that is considered “normal” in conventional western sexuality, I remember experiencing pain in some areas of my yoni and thinking that was natural. I remember that just about the time I started to really FEEL pleasure during sex, the man would ejaculate, and it would be over. I remember having this internal sense of being rushed during oral sex, like I needed to hurry up and come as quickly as I could, because lord knows he won’t be down there for long! And gosh, if on the rare occasion he was, I felt embarrassed and uncomfortable, and had a sense of doing him a great disservice by taking so long….just fuck me now o.k?

I had my first Vulva massage at the age of 33. It lasted 5 hours and consisted entirely of my Tantric Healer massaging, exploring and pleasuring my vulva and vagina, while I verbally communicated to him about pressure, sensation, pleasure and pain. I discovered that numb and painful places inside the yoni are NOT “natural” and are indicative of subtle traumas held in the sexual organs. I discovered that every one of those physical pains had an emotional or psychological pain to go with it, and that with breath, touch, and awareness, those pains could be healed. I sat naked and upright in a chair, with the lights on and my legs spread wide open, and nowhere to hide for 5 hours. I discovered how difficult it was to stay present, and receive this touch that had no demand for a particular response. I saw for the first time how the subconscious sense of shame that I had about my yoni kept me from being able to express my pleasure openly, and completely inhibited my ability to give my partners guidance about what pressure, sensation, or stroke I would enjoy even more. Over the last 3 years I have discovered that my Yoni can have at least 5 different kinds of orgasms, and I can distinguish between an orgasm that occurs at the front, middle, or back of my g-spot. I regularly have anywhere from 10-15 orgasms in a row as easily as breathing, and I ejaculate regularly. My Yoni is now a gateway to mind-melting experiences of orgasmic pleasure and bliss, and I can confidently say that this is the potential of every Yoni on the planet.

My name is Devi and I am so honored and grateful that this is my Yoni.

I’ll Show You Mine is now available for pre-sale, to be shipped by the end of February.

Visit http://www.showoffbooks.com/products/ill-show-you-mine and enter the coupon code ADVANCE to receive the book for just $30 including shipping to anywhere in North America!

Semen Retention…What is it & Why Bother?

As a Tantric Sexuality Educator, one of the fundamental methods that we teach for prolonging sexual pleasure is the art of semen retention. But what is semen retention and why would one bother learning it, much less incorporating it into everyday sexuality?

Semen Retention has several different purposes, the ultimate being the cultivation of male multiple, whole-body orgasms, as well as the conservation of life-giving, anti-aging chemistries, that are generated in a man’s body during sexual arousal.

Very few people are aware that orgasm and ejaculation are actually 2 separate functions of the nervous system, and can be differentiated to the point where men are able to have a full orgasmic experience with no emission.

Dr. Charles Buchar states – ” Orgasm is a peak emotional and physical experience (relating to the parasympathetic nervous system), whereas ejaculation is simply a reflex action occurring at the lower portion of the spinal cord and resulting in ejection of semen.”

By using physical semen retention techniques or “holds”, a man is able to relax into the sensation of orgasm, without the fear of losing his essence, thus prolonging the orgasmic experience and paving the way for multiple orgasms.

The more these techniques are practiced, the easier and more natural it becomes for a man to orgasm without ejaculation.

At a certain point, most men actually prefer this type of orgasm, as it lasts significantly longer than an ejaculatory orgasm, and has the potential to be more powerful, intensely pleasurable, and downright delicious!

Most of our male students have immediately identified with the sense of physical depletion that usually follows an ejaculatory orgasm. Men rolling over and falling asleep after lovemaking is a socially accepted and supported norm. Men often use ejaculatory orgasms to “relax”, not understanding that it’s the orgasm that relaxes the body, not the ejaculation.

As a result, many conventional western sexologists actually contribute to the perpetuation of sexual difficulties, by suggesting that regular ejaculation is “good for you”.

Taoist Masters (such as Mantak Chia) have taught Semen Retention for centuries, as a method for cultivating health, longevity, and for correcting sexual dysfunctions such as Erectile Dysfunction and Premature Ejaculation.

This ancient approach to physical and sexual health can also contribute greatly to the health and happiness of our intimate relationships.

In his book “The Tao of Health, Sex and Longevity” Daniel Reid sheds some light on how semen retention can actually enhance relationships by stating – ‘ Semen essence is the fuel that drives male sexuality. It is the source not only of physical capacity for sex, but also of sexual interest and emotional affection for the opposite gender.’

Thus – “A man who maintains consistently high levels of testosterone, sperm, semen, and other male essences by practicing ejaculatory control will experience an overwhelming enhancement in his love and affection for his woman. He will also gain the capacity to act upon that loving urge over and over again.”  Good news for us women!

Aside from cultivating multiple orgasms and enriching physical health, another advantage of practicing semen retention is the ability to prolong the experience of sexual union.

The average time of penetration until ejaculation is between 2-7 minutes. Wow! Very few women that I know are able to reach orgasm in as little as 2-7 minutes, and thus are left with a subtle sense of disappointment over and over again.

If left unchanged, this may lead to a persistent sense of sexual dissatisfaction, and resentment between partners.

Most men that I encounter have a sincere desire to pleasure their women for long periods of time, but the urge to ejaculate can be so overwhelming that they are unable to resist.

By both partners knowing and using semen retention techniques together, the experience of sexual union can last for as long as you both desire!

The process of learning and communicating about the methods themselves, can be a fun and playful experience that enhances  intimacy, and creates a greater sense of openness and trust for you both.

Also, when the period of actual penetration is extended, it allows for a depth of emotional connection and spiritual communion that is just not possible to achieve in 10 minutes or less.

When a man is willing to retain his semen essence for long periods of time, it sends the powerful message that he is just as invested in his partners orgasm, as he is his own.

Semen Retention WITH orgasm, is a powerful method for cultivating physical/sexual health and longevity, as well as enhancing relationships by cultivating sexual communication skills, and ensuring sexual satisfaction for both partners.

In my opinion, a man’s willingness to practicing semen retention is an un-equivocal demonstration of his commitment to the health and happiness of our connection.

To learn several highly effective, fun, and easy methods of semen retention, and learn how to become a  ‘multi-orgasmic man’ please see our Semen Retention Mastery ~ Authentic Tantra Online Education Course

Devi’s Vagina Monologue…



This is the original text for my ShowoffBooks photoshoot. From what I understand, this book was originally created as a statement against the growing practice of Labiaplasty, though it has since evolved into a more vast and poignant expression of self-empowerment for all women.

On December 11th, after an incredibly challenging day of missing 2 ferries to Vancouver city and driving for eons, we arrived at the photo shoot. It was the very last day of shooting, and the author and photographer had generously stayed later than scheduled, as a result of my unplanned tardiness. I was immediately struck by the vibrant beauty and aliveness of the Author (Wrenna) and the precision and skill of the photographer (Katie). The actual photography took about 7 minutes to complete.. stand and snap, recline and snap. Somewhat anti-climactic after the intensity of the day, but more than made up for by the opportunity to participate in such a revolutionary work of art. Not to mention spending some time with these two very exceptional women. Mine was the very last Yoni photographed, and I was number 69. This is my story….

My name is Devi and this is my Lotus. I am 36 years old and I have no children, as a life choice. I am a Tantric Sexuality Educator and the fact that I chose to participate in this book is to me, a statement of the tremendous healing, growth and transformation that I have experienced as a result of the sexual practices that I teach. I believe that both women and men grow up with an underlying sense of shame regarding their sexuality, as a result of the “sex negative” culture in which we live. As a young woman, I grew up with a deep sense of shame regarding my vagina, though I could not pinpoint an exact experience that would cause this. The fears and shames consisted mostly of A) The fear of smelling bad, B) The fear of my vagina being too “loose from use”, both literally and figuratively, and C) Just a subtle and subconscious “sense of being dirty down there”. During the process of sexual healing that I have undergone these last few years, I have become aware of the direct physical impact that these subconscious emotions of fear, shame, and guilt have, on our ability to fully experience pleasure as women. In regards to the appearance of my Vulva… to shave or not to shave was about as far as it went for me. Though I do remember that when I was a stripper, I would often discreetly peek at the other girls in the dressing room, out of the corner of my eye, trying to unobtrusively “compare goods”. I remember seeing vulvas with the inner labia sticking out a bit, and thinking how pretty that looked, like a flower, and kind of wishing mine looked the same. Mildly I wondered if mine was “different” in some way, normal, attractive, etc. I regularly had men report to me that my vagina, yoni, (and now lotus), was  “very pretty”…so my need for vaginal acceptance was met, at least on the level of appearance. Honestly, it didn’t even occur to me that one could surgically alter the appearance of the Vulva until now. When I learned about Labiaplasty, (very recently in fact), I felt a tremendous sense of sadness that any young woman would be in so much pain about the appearance of her vulva, that she would willingly choose to have it butchered. To have that delicate, highly sensitive, pleasure-enhancing tissue surrounding the vaginal opening, willingly cut up and cut off, in order to fit some culturally conditioned standard of beauty. Then I read more, and learned that Labiaplasty sometimes also includes the clitoral tissue as well. This sounds dangerously similar to the process of female circumcision, the intention being to minimize, (if not eradicate completely), the pleasurable sensations of intercourse, so that a women feels little-to-no pleasure during sex.  Isn’t female circumcision considered a “crime against humanity” in some countries? And also, my god! Don’t we as women have enough culturally enforced “body-image” issues already? Now this? On top of having to constantly manage my hair, my skin, my nails, my weight, my boobs, my ass, now I have to have the perfect looking pussy too. According to who, I wonder? And for what…? What is the “golden mean” that we are all desperately trying to achieve with this inward twisting and turning, and outward slicing and dicing? What is the burning need, the passionate desire that inspires us to work so hard for physical perfection? That allows us to brutalize ourselves internally, and at times mutilate ourselves externally?

I believe it is the desperate and unremitting need for love and acceptance. That basic, underlying desire that we all have as Human beings; to be loved. To simply be loved, and accepted, exactly as we are.

And so I feel very sad that some women feel that the best strategy for accomplishing their goal of love and acceptance, is to willingly have themselves “circumcised” in a sense. To have their precious labia cut off, and their bliss pearls (clitoris’s) altered to “look more appealing”. How will they ever feel pleasure after that sort of trauma? I know the intense amount of emotional and physical healing that my Vulva and Vagina needed to undergo in order to reach my full orgasmic capacity as a woman, and my trauma was purely emotionally and psychologically based. I can’t imagine what it would take to re-sensitize a vulva after that sort of physical damage has been done.

In all honesty, I believe the growing practice of labiaplasty is a red flag for us, not just as women, but for all of us, as a spiritually and sexually disconnected society. A very drastic and painful testament of what we all do to ourselves on some level, in an attempt to have those basic underlying Human needs for acceptance, love, and connection met. And tragically, how so many of our strategies fail.

My name is Devi and this is my pussy, my vulva, my yoni, cunt, vagina, mandala, and very Secret Sky.

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