Your Pleasure & Mine

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Devi speaks with Mariotta Gary-Smith. “It’s Your Pleasure & Mine! Find out what it means to be a sexologist & sexuality educator;the importance of sex education in a sex negative culture & the importance of honoring Women of Color in this … Continue reading

Sex After 50

Devi speaks with Joan Price about Sex After 50. Joan’s mission is to change society’s view of boomer/senior/elder sex, one mind at a time, and to help seniors get the information they need to maintain or regain a joyful sex life. Joan’s latest and most comprehensive book is The Ultimate Guide to Sex after 50: How to Maintain – or Regain! – a Spicy, Satisfying Sex Life.

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We discussed:

*Why we don’t see sexy seniors in the media?

*What misconceptions do seniors have about their own sex lives?

*What are some of the issues that seniors report to you as interfering with a good sex life?

*Sex toys for seniors?

*Tips for having better sex.

About Joan Price ~

Joan Price photo 2013 - square hi resJoan Price (http://www.joanprice.com) calls herself an advocate for ageless sexuality. She has been called other things by the media: “senior sexpert,” “the beautiful face of senior sex,” and—her favorite—”wrinkly sex kitten.” She is the author of the new Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50: How to Maintain – or Regain! – a Spicy, Satisfying Sex Life; the award-winning self-help book, Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex; and the sexy memoir, Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty. Joan continues to talk out loud about senior sex — partnered or solo – in speeches and workshops, and on her zesty blog about sex and aging – http://www.NakedAtOurAge.com.

Connect with Joan at:

Email address: joan@joanprice.com

Website address: http://www.joanprice.com/

Twitter:  @joanprice

LinkedIn:  Joan Price

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/JoanPriceAuthor(@Naked at Out Age by Joan Price)

Award-winning blog about sex & aging: http://www.NakedAtOurAge.com

Available now: The Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50: How to Maintain – or Regain! – a Spicy, Satisfying Sex Life(Cleis Press)

 You can purchase Joan’s products at: http://www.joanprice.com/ and Amazon

 

How To Have a Happy, Healthy Vagina + Safety For Anal To Vaginal Intercourse

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In this episode of Better Love and Sex, Devi is joined by Sexual Health Enthusiast, Nina Helms, as they discuss how to keep your vagina happy and healthy!   Find out about: 1. The Importance of vulvovaginal PH. 2. What to … Continue reading

What’s Love Got To Do With It? Lifting the Lid on Romance

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Devi speaks with Barry Selby, The Love Confidant and Author of 50 Ways to Love your Lover.

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  • The trap of online dating
  • Why do the faces change but the experience stays the same?
  • It is not about the other person (objects in the mirror are closer than they appear).
  • Relationship rebound vs. make-up sex.
  • Having sex all day (the art of foreplay).
  • Having better sex by being apart (polarity is the magnet).
  • What to talk about after sex
Barry Selby is The Love Confidant, professional speaker, published author and relationship transformation expert who specializes in empowering his clients to create conscious, passionate and deep relationships. His heart and passion is to empower successful single women to embrace and own their authentic feminine power and attract the best in their men!
 
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Female Ejaculation and Squirting for Health?

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Listen in on iTunes and Subscribe! Is Female Ejaculation an essential component of a woman’s health and wellness? Devi speaks with Dr. Paul (aka Dr. Wellness) regarding his knowledge on the lymph system and female wellness, including topics such as … Continue reading

Sex Positive, BDSM & Alternative Lifestyles

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Devi speaks with alternative lifestyle and sex positive expert, Jon Pressick about BDSM, sex positivity, and alternative lifestyles. Jon Pressick is the sexual community’s gadabout. Some days he’s the new editor of the Best Sex Writing series. Some days he’s … Continue reading

Is Porn Addiction Real

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Devi speaks with No Fap founder Alexander Rhodes about his movement to help men disconnect from porn and reconnect with their partners. Defying the popular myths that regular porn use does NOT effect a man’s relationship to women, Alexander shares … Continue reading

From Hero to Zero:The Day My Orgasms Sucked!

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As some of you may know- I often share that one of the main reasons many women may have difficulty experiencing their full orgasmic potential, is a result of unresolved emotions or “traumas” locked in the genital tissue. This frozen … Continue reading

How Long Should You Retain Semen Between Ejaculations?

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I had a student call me from the Skytrain recently. He had just practiced Tantric breathing with a new friend, no sex, and was experiencing discomfort in his testicles.

He is polyamorous with a primary partner. He has been practicing tantra about one year, so I asked him how long since he had ejaculated. 8 months he said. I burst out laughing, “dude, you are a beginner, I said 6 to 8 weeks, not months, time to rip one off!!!”. He was delighted and said his wife was going to have great night!

The story is amusing but I thought I had better clarify this.

When we say semen retention, we don’t mean never ejaculate.

Ejaculatory Orgasms are one of our 6 wonderful male multiple orgasms!

It is excess frequency that is the liability.

So below I include some guidelines for men to manage their Jing (that is your juiciness guys, makes you sexy to girls, or guys if you swing that way):

These are guidelines, you are your own master, choose wisely your timing.

Life conditions also affect these time frames.

As a beginner proceed with patience and work towards a minimum base line of 6 weeks between ejaculations, while having NON-ejaculatory orgasms.

Maybe you can only do 2 to 3 weeks, OK, then 3 to 4 weeks, then 5 to 6, easy and relaxed.

This is of course with pleasuring or intercourse too, but not having ejaculation.

Proceeding like this will allow your chi to rebuild to the point you can have non-ejaculatory orgasms, from there they will grow in intensity, trust me!!

Also allows for deep vital organ repair and regeneration.

If you are solo; practicing tantra alone, work up to 3 months, range 6 weeks to 12 weeks.

If you are in a monogamous relationship; then work up to 3 months, range 9 to 12 weeks.

If you are polyamorous with more than one active partner; the energy, both yogic and emotional, will be much higher and can cause discomfort (as above).

In this case I suggest a baseline of 6 to 8 weeks maximum. When advanced you can adjust this per your own sensitivity to your levels and needs.

If you ejaculate less than once every 6 weeks you will have minimal to no recovery time, you will have built up some stores.

Do not ejaculate again within 8 days minimum or you will pay a price of depletion.

Unless you are solo, ejaculation should always be with a partner, sharing your essence with love on purpose, not as an accidental involuntary reflex.

Hey I know, accidents happen, but if it is regular it is not an accident it is lazy-mindedness!

Taoist sexual yoga states that the Taoist masters best frequency is ejaculate once every 100 sessions. That is a lot of counting, and we are not in caves or temples.

Yet if one practices daily 100 sessions is just over 3 months.

There you have it, if you have questions please ask, that is what I am here for.

Sincerely,

Jacques Drouin