Sex After 50

Devi speaks with Joan Price about Sex After 50. Joan’s mission is to change society’s view of boomer/senior/elder sex, one mind at a time, and to help seniors get the information they need to maintain or regain a joyful sex life. Joan’s latest and most comprehensive book is The Ultimate Guide to Sex after 50: How to Maintain – or Regain! – a Spicy, Satisfying Sex Life.

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We discussed:

*Why we don’t see sexy seniors in the media?

*What misconceptions do seniors have about their own sex lives?

*What are some of the issues that seniors report to you as interfering with a good sex life?

*Sex toys for seniors?

*Tips for having better sex.

About Joan Price ~

Joan Price photo 2013 - square hi resJoan Price (http://www.joanprice.com) calls herself an advocate for ageless sexuality. She has been called other things by the media: “senior sexpert,” “the beautiful face of senior sex,” and—her favorite—”wrinkly sex kitten.” She is the author of the new Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50: How to Maintain – or Regain! – a Spicy, Satisfying Sex Life; the award-winning self-help book, Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex; and the sexy memoir, Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty. Joan continues to talk out loud about senior sex — partnered or solo – in speeches and workshops, and on her zesty blog about sex and aging – http://www.NakedAtOurAge.com.

Connect with Joan at:

Email address: joan@joanprice.com

Website address: http://www.joanprice.com/

Twitter:  @joanprice

LinkedIn:  Joan Price

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/JoanPriceAuthor(@Naked at Out Age by Joan Price)

Award-winning blog about sex & aging: http://www.NakedAtOurAge.com

Available now: The Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50: How to Maintain – or Regain! – a Spicy, Satisfying Sex Life(Cleis Press)

 You can purchase Joan’s products at: http://www.joanprice.com/ and Amazon

 

Adventures in Sex Toys! Buying, Using, Washing, Oh MY!

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Adventures in Sex Toys! Buying, Using, Washing, Oh MY! In this episode of Better Love and Sex, Devi is joined by sex toy specialist, Nina Helms to discuss adventures in sex toys! There are sooo many different sex toys on … Continue reading

What’s Love Got To Do With It? Lifting the Lid on Romance

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Devi speaks with Barry Selby, The Love Confidant and Author of 50 Ways to Love your Lover.

Listen Live and discover:

  • The trap of online dating
  • Why do the faces change but the experience stays the same?
  • It is not about the other person (objects in the mirror are closer than they appear).
  • Relationship rebound vs. make-up sex.
  • Having sex all day (the art of foreplay).
  • Having better sex by being apart (polarity is the magnet).
  • What to talk about after sex
Barry Selby is The Love Confidant, professional speaker, published author and relationship transformation expert who specializes in empowering his clients to create conscious, passionate and deep relationships. His heart and passion is to empower successful single women to embrace and own their authentic feminine power and attract the best in their men!
 
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Orgasm for Life!

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Listen as Devi Ward speaks with Jennifer Elizabeth Masters on her recently released book – “Orgasm for Life”
Jennifer and Devi will discuss:
-The biggest issue in long-term relationships
-Why women are afraid to ask for what they want
-Fantasies, role playing, and other ways to re-ignite the fires of passion
-Healing G-Spot trauma and other sexual trauma instructions
And so much more!!

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters has been on a healing journey for over 30 years.

In the process of healing her own sexual dysfunction, codependency, addictions and illness, Jennifer has developed several  programs to help empower women to love themselves fearlessly.

One of the biggest changes in Jennifer’s life is the total absence of fear, depression and loneliness. She has discovered when we come to loving acceptance of ourselves, we get out of our own way and stop trying to make things hap-pen and allow life to unfold.

Jennifer has worked with thousands of women and men, helping them heal from addiction, depression, lim-iting beliefs and unworthiness.

She is an author, inspirational speaker, hypnotherapist, Certified Life Coach, mother of 3, Master Energy Healer and ordained minister. As a Scorpio, she unabashedly says she has enjoyed sexual expression. She assists women to find the Sacredness in Sex. Married and divorced 4 times, Jennifer is an empower-ment and sex coach for women.

Her book, Orgasm For Life, came out at the end of May, 2014

Connect with Jennifer: Love Yourself Fearlessly BLOG

Twitter: twitter.com/JeniferEMasters

Facebook: facebook.com/JenniferElizabethMasters

LinkedIN: linkedin.com/pub/dir/Elizabeth/Masters

 

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Female Ejaculation and Squirting for Health?

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Designer Relationships – A New Paradigm

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Listen in on iTunes and Subscribe! Devi Ward speaks with Patricia and Mark on creating a new paradigm for relationships. Including: The 10 biggest myths about relationships Unconscious Monogamy Love as a profound interest And SO much more!! Mark A. … Continue reading

Vulvas and Vaginas with Arielle Loren!

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Unfortunately last night we had some technical difficulties with the radio show. We were able to get half an hour of juicy deliciousness with Arielle Loren, celebrating female sexual anatomy. This was a damn good quickie! Tune in to hear … Continue reading

Can Self-Pleasure Be Stylish?

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Yesterday I received their entire collection of luxury sex toys to review for our audience, and with over 11 styles of “personal massagers” I plan on being otherwise occupied for days to come (no pun intended!)

This evening I plan on spending a little time with my new friends Jimmee & Donatello….I will be sure to give you a full written report over the weekend.

For now, I invite you to tune in to Better Love and Sex with Devi Ward every Thursday evening at 7pm PST, and discover more ways to awaken, heal, and transform your sexuality, to begin living a happier, healthier, more fulfilling life on every level!

Yes, even masturbation can do that for you!

Say Hi to My New Friends Jimmee & Donatello…

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The Perils Of Self-Pleasure:Can You Get Addicted To Your Vibrator?

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I am a HUGE fan of luxury sex toys, and consider them to be an integral part of sexual healing and orgasmic empowerment for both women and men, but most women that I speak with have some questions about how much is too much when it comes to using a vibrator.

Do vibrators actually make a woman less sensitive to touch?

And- if a woman is able to orgasm easily when she uses her vibrator by herself, but DOESN’T orgasm with her partner, does this mean that she’s addicted to it?

Wondering if you can become addicted to or desensitized by using a vibrator is a common and valid concern, and the most honest answer is, well … sort of.

Dr. Jim Pfaus, a researcher and professor of psychology at Montreal’s Concordia University, notes in Naomi Wolf’s book Vaginathe human spinal circuit will habituate to the same repeated stimuli, over a period of time, and thus vibrators may desensitize women, due to this natural “habituation” phenomenon.

In short – if you use the same vibrator again and again and again, your nervous system becomes “adapted” to the specific frequency of that particular vibration.

Does this mean you need to get rid of your vibrator?

No!

To me this simply means- use more than one vibrator.

Every vibrator provides it’s own unique “pattern” of vibration, so if your body becomes accustomed to one “pattern”- to the point where sensation is diminished- simply change it up a bit by introducing a new “frequency” and/or use your fingers too!

I myself have several vibrators that I use, as well as interchanging with my fingers to provide tactile sensation. I like to say that self-pleasuring is a two-handed job and requires the ability to multi-task.

And so it seems with vibrators, as with everything else, variety truly is the spice of life.

In regard to your inability to orgasm with your partner – there may be a few different reasons for that, but in the case of oral stimulation, it’s usually just a matter of some simple guidance and communication.

Most often, our partners are fumbling around in the dark, trying to read our subtle body-language “cues” and hoping desperately that the sound we just made means we like it, and not that it hurts.

At the same time, we’re usually in our heads wondering how we smell, taste and sound, and thinking “if they just went a little softer and to the left …” or something along that line.

Alternatively, when it’s you and your vibrator – you know exactly how, where, and when to use it.

Usually, your partner doesn’t have all of the inside information that he or she needs in order to “get the job done,” so it’s really no surprise you find it easier to orgasm when it’s just you and “Mr. Rabbit.”

Giving your partner some gentle verbal feedback and encouragement when they’re on the right track can make a world of difference for both of you (and a properly timed ‘thank you, I like that’ always has its place).

Then your vibrator is no longer “competition” but enhancement, which is exactly what it was designed for.

 

Where Is My G-Spot? How To Find It And How It Works!

Originally written for Shetroit Sex & Sensuality Column  

Instructions for finding your g-spot. “DEAR DEVI,  

I keep hearing people talk about “The G-Spot” in women.

I can’t seem to find mine, and have no idea what I’m even looking for.

Is there such a thing as a G-spot, and does every woman have one?”

If you don’t know where your G-spot is, don’t be alarmed.

It was only recently verified as a part of a woman’s physical anatomy in 2001, and not published as an actual “finding” until 2007.

If you DO know where your g-spot is, you may still have questions about how it works, and why it may seem to fluctuate in sensitivity at different points throughout your life.

I was clueless about what and where my G-spot was for most of my life.

It sounded like this amazing body part that some women were lucky enough to be born with, and some women (like myself at that time) were simply destined to live without it.

Luckily I was completely and totally wrong.

Yes Virginia, every woman has a G-spot.

It’s an actual part of your physical anatomy, and unless your genitalia departs from the norm, you are destined to have one.

Diagram of G-spot

You will “find” your G-spot about 1.5-to-2.5 inches inside your vagina, on the anterior (front) wall.

The flesh will feel slightly textured, or rough like corduroy or a cat’s tongue. If you make a “hook” with your finger, in a ‘come here’ motion and press up and into the body with slight pressure, you will feel the back end of the G-spot and maybe even some pleasurable “pressure” sensations.

The G-spot includes the entire area from the tip of where your finger is pressing, all the way to the vaginal opening.

Other than its location, the other important thing to understand about your G-spot is the way it works.

If you base your personal experience of your G-spot on some of the stories you’ve heard, you probably expect that the moment you touch it, you’ll be overwhelmed with the most explosive orgasms of your life and instantaneously reduced to a puddle of pleasure.

It doesn’t quite work that way.

Your G-spot is made up of spongy erectile tissue, which will literally engorge and become erect, kind of like a penis does, but on the inside. In fact – women have as much erectile tissue internally as a man does externally, but it can take anywhere from 20-45 minutes for that tissue to become fully engorged and for our bodies to become fully aroused.

So your G-spot isn’t necessarily going to feel amazing the moment you touch it.

It needs to go through a process of arousal, and this arousal usually comes from some sort of direct stimulation, be it a finger or sex toy or, depending on the angle, a penis.

The other thing to be aware of is that women store emotional, sexual, psychological “trauma” or “stress” in our sexual organs, specifically the G-spot area. So many women may feel numb, irritated, or even pain when that area is stimulated.

If this is your experience, please understand that this is completely normal and part of a healing process. 

Given the lack of accurate sex education in our culture, it’s no surprise that most women and men are confused about their sexual anatomy and sexual pleasure responses.

I celebrate your courage in seeking to understand more about your body and beginning the process of reclaiming your birthright to pleasure.

Learn how to have G-spot orgasms!