Glories of God? Retain Your Semen!

As Gedun Chopel said, “if a man cannot retain his semen, a woman will never know the glories of passion”.

Glory by the way is translated as “lights, the lights of God”.

 Men are capable of 5 different types of orgasm!

Men can and DO orgasm without ejaculating.

Ejaculation is just ONE  flavor of orgasm!

In brief; a man squirts, losing his jing and passion, the loving is over, now he has to recover, which takes 4 to 8 days (by age).

He is turned inward energetically and… is not really available to his lover.

Also, she is unsatisfied and frustrated. The average time of penetration, until ejaculation is between 2 & 10 minutes. Think about it….it takes most people longer to brush their teeth!

By retaining he can make love for as long as he wants, and as he orgasms w/out squirt, he becomes stronger, healthier, and more present.

His orgasms feed his lover in many ways, and she is satisfied and happy w/ him.

He is not depleted and remains emotionally present w/out withdrawal.

This has a powerful effect on relationships!

The connection that results from such lovemaking is vastly deep and clear, blissful in fact.

And, he has no loss of desire for her, wanting her more than ever, and he is ready for her whenever she desires.

How do you think a woman will feel when a man takes several hours to pleasure and delight her in so many ways her head spins, and then he makes love to her until she has literally blown her mind?

Interested in finding out?

Article  written by Jacques Drouin

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Tantra 101- The Sex Education You Didn’t Get in School

Tantra…a loaded word in today’s society. Misconceptions abound, due to the many different interpretations of what Tantric practice actually is.

For some, Tantra is about learning to communicate more authentically in their relationships. For others it means learning to give & receive heart centered touch.

For many it is a path of sexual healing and sensual empowerment, and in some cases, Tantra is simply another word for hand-job.

In the Western world, what Tantra actually IS seems to depend on who is offering the service and their particular orientation to the path. I was fortunate as I embarked upon my Tantric Journey, to encounter instructors who had authentic methods to share, and were committed to engaging those methods for the purpose of healing, transformation, and liberation.

Tantra was for me, and continues to be, the sexual education that we all should have had, but didn’t get.

The absence of REAL sexual education in our culture occurs for a variety of reasons, first and foremost being the fact that, although many of the physiological and psychological benefits of Tantric sexual practices have been “scientifically” or medically proven, they are not common knowledge.

As a result, awareness of these methods (and their benefits), are not yet integrated into the conventional western approach to sexuality, which is where our so-called “sexual education” comes from.

The highest purpose for Tantric Sexual Practice, at least according to Vajrayana Buddhism, is the realization of  voidness, or enlightenment.

This is achieved not through warm fuzzy feelings and deep eye-gazing (though those may occur), but through the application of physical techniques designed to enhance and prolong sexual pleasure, as well as meditative practices engaged, during the act of physical union.

Which are all great and wonderful things, but how does that actually lead to any sort of realization?

It was explained to me like this; at the moment of orgasm, the “winds” or moving energies of the genitals, brush the central channel, which is the core of our life force.When this happens, we get a glimpse or taste of voidness,.. i.e. enlightenment.

Think of that moment of orgasm, those few brief seconds of bliss, and that internal sense of freedom, expansiveness & joy… not to mention pleasure! That momentary experience is just a hint of what is possible.

Imagine extending that fleeting moment of orgasm to last several minutes, sometimes hours. Imagine experiencing the bliss of orgasm over and over again during one lovemaking session, and having the tools in your hands to repeat that experience as often as you’d like.

Quite a different state of affairs than our conventional “sex ed”.

And all of that is just a description of the mechanics, relating to the esoteric aspect of Tantra.

So what happens on the physical level during sexuality?

When human beings engage in sexual activity, the body begins producing a rich abundance of life-giving and anti-aging hormones and chemistries in the body. Some of these chemistries are not produced in any other way!

The very act of becoming sexually aroused initiates this bio-chemical process, and the more time we are able to spend in this state of sexual arousal and enjoyment, the more these life-giving chemistries are able to permeate our very cells.

A stronger immune system, increased cell renewal, improved brain function and prolonged life-span are just a few of the benefits you can count on experiencing as a result of Tantric practices.

And then, there are the emotional and psychological benefits that occur through Tantra.

We humans tend to store emotional and psychological traumas in the body and sexual organs. An emotional/psychological trauma can be as severe as physical or sexual abuse, or as seemingly minute as being emotionally rejected or hurt in some way.

Our life experiences leave imprints upon us, whether positive or negative.

The energy patterns of these imprints are held in our bodies and may inhibit our ability to relate freely with the present moment and our partner.

Tantric practices often take this into account, employing many methods of deepening the sense of connection and presence within oneself and partner. This facilitates an environment of safety and trust, which is essential for deep healing to occur.

In this environment, techniques such as vulva, yoni, g-spot and sacred sector massage can be practiced with depth and presence, and the potential for life-altering transformation can be realized.

Freedom of sexual expression, and fullness of sensual enjoyment can then be more easily and regularly experienced.

What I LOVE about Tantric practice, is that the methods are simple, easy and so very effective.

Yes, it takes courage to embark upon a path of growth. Whether you are interested in Tantra for “spiritual realization” or you simply want better sex, in order to get from here to there, some sort of growth must occur.

BUT, with the correct methods and tools, that growth can be rapid and ever so rewarding.

Like any new skill that we learn, Tantra takes time and practice (but what a FUN thing to practice!) and it is a commitment to a new way of life…a better way of life in my opinion. Time…practice… patience… growth, reward, joy, and an ever increasing sense of  fulfillment in life.

I’ll buy that!

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Semen Retention…What is it & Why Bother?

As a Tantric Sexuality Educator, one of the fundamental methods that we teach for prolonging sexual pleasure is the art of semen retention. But what is semen retention and why would one bother learning it, much less incorporating it into everyday sexuality?

Semen Retention has several different purposes, the ultimate being the cultivation of male multiple, whole-body orgasms, as well as the conservation of life-giving, anti-aging chemistries, that are generated in a man’s body during sexual arousal.

Very few people are aware that orgasm and ejaculation are actually 2 separate functions of the nervous system, and can be differentiated to the point where men are able to have a full orgasmic experience with no emission.

Dr. Charles Buchar states – ” Orgasm is a peak emotional and physical experience (relating to the parasympathetic nervous system), whereas ejaculation is simply a reflex action occurring at the lower portion of the spinal cord and resulting in ejection of semen.”

By using physical semen retention techniques or “holds”, a man is able to relax into the sensation of orgasm, without the fear of losing his essence, thus prolonging the orgasmic experience and paving the way for multiple orgasms.

The more these techniques are practiced, the easier and more natural it becomes for a man to orgasm without ejaculation.

At a certain point, most men actually prefer this type of orgasm, as it lasts significantly longer than an ejaculatory orgasm, and has the potential to be more powerful, intensely pleasurable, and downright delicious!

Most of our male students have immediately identified with the sense of physical depletion that usually follows an ejaculatory orgasm. Men rolling over and falling asleep after lovemaking is a socially accepted and supported norm. Men often use ejaculatory orgasms to “relax”, not understanding that it’s the orgasm that relaxes the body, not the ejaculation.

As a result, many conventional western sexologists actually contribute to the perpetuation of sexual difficulties, by suggesting that regular ejaculation is “good for you”.

Taoist Masters (such as Mantak Chia) have taught Semen Retention for centuries, as a method for cultivating health, longevity, and for correcting sexual dysfunctions such as Erectile Dysfunction and Premature Ejaculation.

This ancient approach to physical and sexual health can also contribute greatly to the health and happiness of our intimate relationships.

In his book “The Tao of Health, Sex and Longevity” Daniel Reid sheds some light on how semen retention can actually enhance relationships by stating – ‘ Semen essence is the fuel that drives male sexuality. It is the source not only of physical capacity for sex, but also of sexual interest and emotional affection for the opposite gender.’

Thus – “A man who maintains consistently high levels of testosterone, sperm, semen, and other male essences by practicing ejaculatory control will experience an overwhelming enhancement in his love and affection for his woman. He will also gain the capacity to act upon that loving urge over and over again.”  Good news for us women!

Aside from cultivating multiple orgasms and enriching physical health, another advantage of practicing semen retention is the ability to prolong the experience of sexual union.

The average time of penetration until ejaculation is between 2-7 minutes. Wow! Very few women that I know are able to reach orgasm in as little as 2-7 minutes, and thus are left with a subtle sense of disappointment over and over again.

If left unchanged, this may lead to a persistent sense of sexual dissatisfaction, and resentment between partners.

Most men that I encounter have a sincere desire to pleasure their women for long periods of time, but the urge to ejaculate can be so overwhelming that they are unable to resist.

By both partners knowing and using semen retention techniques together, the experience of sexual union can last for as long as you both desire!

The process of learning and communicating about the methods themselves, can be a fun and playful experience that enhances  intimacy, and creates a greater sense of openness and trust for you both.

Also, when the period of actual penetration is extended, it allows for a depth of emotional connection and spiritual communion that is just not possible to achieve in 10 minutes or less.

When a man is willing to retain his semen essence for long periods of time, it sends the powerful message that he is just as invested in his partners orgasm, as he is his own.

Semen Retention WITH orgasm, is a powerful method for cultivating physical/sexual health and longevity, as well as enhancing relationships by cultivating sexual communication skills, and ensuring sexual satisfaction for both partners.

In my opinion, a man’s willingness to practicing semen retention is an un-equivocal demonstration of his commitment to the health and happiness of our connection.

To learn several highly effective, fun, and easy methods of semen retention, and learn how to become a  ‘multi-orgasmic man’ please see our Semen Retention Mastery ~ Authentic Tantra Online Education Course

Sex – Quality not Quantity

In regards to sexual activity, I personally, am more in favor of quality of experience rather than quantity. I very much enjoy making delicious juicy love with my partner for several hours, once or twice a week. Imagine a situation in which your partner lovingly coaxes orgasm after orgasm from your body, has his own multiple orgasms, and retains his semen, so that he is enriched and revitalized from your lovemaking, rather than physically depleted and emotionally absent. Much prefer that, than the conventionally accepted and (in some cases much endorsed) approach to sexuality, of frequent sexual encounters which consists of 2-10 minutes of penetration before he ejaculates and it’s over. A situation that repeats itself day after day, over and over again. A life circumstance  in which I am minimally to partially satisfied as a woman (at best!), and he is emotionally and physically exhausted and depleted as a result of his chronic lack of ejaculatory control.
That’s like eating dog food every day, when you have access to an organic garden full of produce that is delicious, nutritious, and bursting with life. All you have to do is get the right tools, and spend a little time and energy cultivating it.

The Secret Tibetan 5 Element Tantras!

In today’s society, Tantric sexuality is becoming more widely known and accepted. There are various styles of Tantric sexual practices, including the Chinese Taoist, the Native American Quodoushka, and the more widely known East Indian, Kama Sutra approach. In the … Continue reading