Your Pleasure & Mine

Devi speaks with Mariotta Gary-Smith. “It’s Your Pleasure & Mine! Find out what it means to be a sexologist & sexuality educator;the importance of sex education in a sex negative culture & the importance of honoring Women of Color in this … Continue reading

The Science of Orgasm!

Devi Ward Tantra

From improving heart health to cancer prevention, orgasm is THE most pleasurable and beneficial health supplement one can take! Find out more about the science of sexual health and pleasure as medicine in this interview with Devi Ward and sexual … Continue reading

What’s Love Got To Do With It? Lifting the Lid on Romance

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Devi speaks with Barry Selby, The Love Confidant and Author of 50 Ways to Love your Lover.

Listen Live and discover:

  • The trap of online dating
  • Why do the faces change but the experience stays the same?
  • It is not about the other person (objects in the mirror are closer than they appear).
  • Relationship rebound vs. make-up sex.
  • Having sex all day (the art of foreplay).
  • Having better sex by being apart (polarity is the magnet).
  • What to talk about after sex
Barry Selby is The Love Confidant, professional speaker, published author and relationship transformation expert who specializes in empowering his clients to create conscious, passionate and deep relationships. His heart and passion is to empower successful single women to embrace and own their authentic feminine power and attract the best in their men!
 
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Female Ejaculation and Squirting for Health?

Listen in on iTunes and Subscribe! Is Female Ejaculation an essential component of a woman’s health and wellness? Devi speaks with Dr. Paul (aka Dr. Wellness) regarding his knowledge on the lymph system and female wellness, including topics such as … Continue reading

Top Masturbation Tips, Vaginal Orgasms, and Female Libido Enhancer!

Nothing like a little self-lovin’ for the Holidays! For Thanksgiving 2013, Devi shares her top tips for ecstatic self-pleasure, expanding your “pleasure potential”, and the number one key to having vaginal orgasms! Also find out her favorite tool for jump … Continue reading

Mastering The Art Of Sensual Health and Wellness!

If you are like me, you are probably doing all the right things in regards to your physical health and wellness. You watch what you eat, do yoga, exercise, focus on positive thinking, etc. etc. You are aware of the … Continue reading

3 Keys To Prioritizing Self-Pleasure!

Devi Ward Tantra

Recently a student of mine and I were discussing the revitalizing aspects of pleasure. She is a new mother, and she was expressing how transformative she has found it to prioritize her needs for self-pleasure- sexual and sensual- and how that has positively affected the happiness of her entire family.

We were chuckling at the irony, because when I tell most women that the key to experiencing more inner peace, contentment, and joy in life, is to schedule in 20-30 minutes a day of “self-pleasure,” they look at me like I’m crazy.

“You’ve got to be kidding me.” they say. “I have a job, a family, a husband, a PTA meeting. I don’t have time for “self-pleasure”.

Which is exactly the problem!

As women, we are conditioned to prioritize giving to everyone and everything, above giving to ourselves. Our culture tends to glorify self-sacrificing female role models who override their own needs for the sake of their families, friends, co-workers, and children.

As a result of this societal “pressure”, many women feel guilty just thinking about taking time to meet needs for self-care, much less self-pleasure.

And yet one of the vital keys to effectively contributing to the lives of those we love, is honoring our own needs for self-pleasure, as a way of caring for and loving our selves.

When we don’t prioritize meeting our needs for self-love through self-pleasure, we are disconnected from our inner wisdom, and our true source of happiness, love, and joy.

This affects our relationships, our families, our business, our entire lives.

Plus- it just plain sucks walking around feeling tired, overwhelmed, and stressed out because we are not honoring our own needs for self-care.

Understandably, many women mistakenly think of  “self-pleasure” in a sexual context only, but there are many different ways to meet needs for pleasure, (which I describe in my book as The 4 Forms of Pleasure,) which are- Physical/Sensual, Emotional, Spiritual, and Sexual.

I describe how consciously cultivating each of The 4 Forms of Pleasure on a daily basis can enrich physical health and vitality, help improve mood and balance emotions, increase libido, and enhance relationships.

Which all sounds great, but how do you begin prioritizing your own pleasure, and creating more balance, joy, and fulfillment in your life right now? It’s easy.

#1. Awareness– The first step in making any type of change is acknowledging to your self the need for change. Be honest with yourself about the fact that you would like to be experiencing more pleasure and joy in your life, and that you are ready to take action.

 

#2. Commitment- Look at your weekly planner and daily “to-do” list, and schedule yourself in. I recommend giving your self a good 20-30 minutes of time each day, and possibly scheduling in longer periods of time as often as once a week, and as little as once a month.

 

#3. Discovery- There are a variety of ways to meet needs for pleasure, such as hot baths, walks in the park, and shopping trips, and these are a great way to fill in the gaps. But if you are wanting to really draw upon the many physical, emotional, and relationship benefits of pleasure, I suggest learning more about The 4 Forms of Pleasure and how they can be accessed through The 4 Principles of Self-Pleasure. You might even be inspired to create your own daily “Pleasure Program.” 

 

Women are designed to “pay it forward” so to speak. You know that saying “Educate a man and you educate one person; educate a woman and you educate a whole nation?”

Same goes for self-care…..

 

Want some support creating your own “Pleasure Program? Find out more at http://www.deviward.com

 

How To Lasting Longer & Multiple Orgasms For Men

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The main question men have is – HOW to do it effectively, and problems they have with the method they are using.

I remind all of you that Authentic Tantra is a secret oral tradition from great Lineages of masters, and you cannot learn Tantra from a book.

Anyone who possesses the real instruction is well aware of why it is secret and will not reveal it casually.

If they do they are irresponsible about others’ welfare. You don’t take someone who barely can paddle a surfboard big wave surfing, it won’t go well.

True instruction is based on progress. Soon you will be a big wave surfer ,so to speak, but first you must learn to paddle right or you will be stuck on the beach.

That being said, the urge to retain semen is human maturity, if you are an untrained 2 to 7 minute squirter (international average time of penetration), you are having sex like a 14 year old boy.

The method used to retain semen and last longer is critical.

Many men come to me and say something like “I tried semen retention, after a month I was so frustrated I gave up”.

My response is always the same… “what method did you use and did you orgasm without ejaculation?”

Not one ever had a non-ejaculatory orgasm, and all used about the same method.

Of course they were frustrated!!! I would be too. 

The basic default method most men try on their own or heard about but never studied is the “anal lock”method.

This involves tightening and holding the semen back with powerful contraction of the PC muscles.

Bottom line it is a shitty method.

Oh it will hold the semen back, but you will not enjoy it, and if you do it with a woman, they definitely do not enjoy it. I have had women come to me in tears because their partner used this method, that is how much they dislike it.

It can also over time lead to retrograde ejaculation which is not that good for us in excess, correct method has no retrograde aspect, instead the semen is transmuted into fabulous chemistries.

The anal lock uses tightness, contraction, witholding emotionally and energetically, all the very things that must be undone to actually orgasm without ejaculation!

So as you can guess I do not teach this useless method, in my opinion a waste of time at best, worse it can create blocks to bliss that require a lot of effort to overcome.

At Authentic Tantra, we teach 5 different semen retention methods for lasting longer in bed. Three are taught to beginners right away, the other 2 in advanced classes. These methods are simple, easy, natural, and very effective.

You can begin using them day-one with good result.

Some of my male students are having whole-body multiple non-ejaculatory orgasms within 1 or 2 years of learning!

This is an amazing result. The key lies in correct instruction and method.

They also were having other types of orgasm before the whole body orgasms began. Men are capable of 6 types of orgasm! Woohoo!

If you ejaculate you only know of 1.

Whole body orgasms for a man are an inconceivable experience. Trying to describe it is like describing any orgasm to someone who has never had one.

Have one and you will know a secret of the Tantric Arts of Love. And women will dig you!!!

The correct instructions are on-line at Authentic Tantra.

Please don’t tell me it costs too much. I watch people drop way more to go snowboarding for 1 day.

We are talking about your sexuality (and your lovers’) for the rest of your life!

I will give you all this core instruction:
All Tantra begins and ends in the heart, this is emotional, energetic and yogic. The fundamental principle of practice is “present relaxed awareness with focus”. Each of these 4 words comes with volumes of instruction, each an aspect of real Tantra, each must be in place , male or female, or good result will not be realized. Start now with each, the instructions for this are in “Intimacy Essentials” course.

In time it will become a single disposition, you will have peace of mind, happiness, calmness along with great sexual love and enjoyment.

I honour every single man who wants to learn this, by changing yourself you are changing the world in a powerful way, so thank you.

Peace and happiness,

Jacques Drouin