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Understand this & you will know how to live masculine & feminine polarized in bliss & love.
Do not make the error of attaching to one, both are always merging and becoming the other.
Women must learn to be strong without trying to be like men. It was useful to gain equality and rights, but now it can be an impediment in our sexual culture.
The power of woman is Yin, it is actually stated in some Taoist texts that yin is more powerful, as yin can yield and open to absorb all yang, she is flexible, like a willow tree in the wind, not like an oak tree.
Oak challenges the wind with firmness, and big branches break. The willow just flows and bends, very few branches fall.
Look to the power of Tai Chi, no resistance, bends & flows around the challenge-energy of attack.
The more the challenge-energy attacks, the more there is for the tai chi to overcome that very force, or embrace it and bring it to harmony & peace. Do you see?
The power of woman is magnificent, but not if she tries to use male force against, or in relationship, with male force.
There will only be pain for both.
Women, dance in polarity, openness & yielding in love, blissful, strong at heart, balanced.
Men, protect her, challenge her with love and you will both grow, lovingly penetrate her deeply for long periods of time, hours, without ejaculation and she will treat you like a king, and you will retain your strength, unafraid of woman power.
If we do this the patriarchy that is terrified of women will fall. Then there will be harmony. Get to work!
On September 1st, 2012 I will officially begin my 66 days of self-pleasure, which could more accurately be titled 66 days of celibacy, except that I WILL be having sex. Lots of it. Just with myself and no-one else. For … Continue reading
Recently I had a video banned by Youtube for being “too explicit”. Sexually that is. It’s a trailer clip for our online Authentic Tantra Education, which features live Yoni-G-spot massage demonstrations, featuring yours truly as the “Demo Model”. I also … Continue reading
As part of our promotion, we enjoy having video trailers of some of the course content so that you, our audience, can have a better idea of what it is we are actually offering you.
We offer detailed instruction in G-spot-Yoni massage for sexual healing & awakening the multi-orgasmic potential of every woman.
As we are doing the demonstrations LIVE, we were thrilled to capture on film myself (Devi Ward) go through the process of an actual Authentic Tantric healing during the session.
We created a video trailer for this particular course that includes footage of the beginning and end of the G-spot-Yoni Massage healing process, so that people would have a chance to see the natural and authentic beauty of this process.
The video trailer contains NO visible nudity, no explicit sexual content, no genital visuals, nothing that is actually “pornographic” in nature.
What you DO see, is Tantric Breathing with my partner, heart-centered connection, emotional intimacy, and me crying and releasing emotional sexual trauma, while my partner lovingly holds space for healing.
And yet, YouTube banned this video, not once but TWICE, on the grounds that it’s content was “pornographic and inappropriate”.
I appealed their decision, as they clearly states in their content guideline that “YouTube makes exceptions regarding nudity for appropriate educational, documentary, artistic and scientific contexts, but only in limited circumstances where the purpose of posting is clear and any nudity it is not sexual in nature.”
And yet, when I did a youtube search for “naked girls” these are some of the video’s that came up:
Big Tits Boob Ass Shaking–which features a 12-16 year old girl in g-string panties, being explicitly sexually suggestive
Sexy Strip Tease Naked Porn– Featuring a young woman stripping for a porn interview
Apparently these video’s are NOT considered abnormally sexually explicit or suggestive, and our Tantra Education Trailer is, maybe because you can see my partners hand covering my genitals.
Apparently that isn’t appropriate for public consumption.
What do YOU think?
Is our Tantra Trailer too sexy for YouTube, or is the problem on their end, with the powers that be?
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I read an article recently by a woman describing the differences between how men fantasize about us masturbating, and how most of us women actually do masturbate, which she described as a somewhat half-hazard, fast and furtive process.
Her description of female masturbation seemed very similar to the way a 14 year old boy probably masturbates, under the covers at night, stifling his sounds of pleasure, hoping -to -god no one comes in before he’s finished.
Hell, forget a 14 year old boy, that sounds like the masturbation modus operandis of most adults I know, both men and women.
Minding our P’s and Q’s…Privately, Quietly and Quickly!
Which got me to thinking about the differences between masturbation and self-pleasure.
Masturbation of course, would be the familiar scenario which I described above- one which 99.9% of adult humans can probably relate to.
So what is self-pleasuring? And how (besides the name), does it differ from our usual self-stroking?
#1) The first difference is my state of mind.
We have been taught as a society that self-stimulation is shameful, wrong, dirty, embarassing, etc.
We know that people do it, (especially men), and it’s accepted that they do, but it’s frequently thought of as a way to release physical and emotional “urges”.
Essentially a way to get rid of “too much” energy or emotional agitation. A form of stress release. Which yes, absolutely it is.
But that’s not ALL self-stimualtion can be used for- as just a genital pressure valve so to speak.
If we approach self-stimualtion from only that angle, our focus is mostly on the end result of the journey, and not on the sweet subtle communications of our body, which occur along the road to orgasm.
These subtle fluctuations of pleasure, energy and arousal are a sort of language, and when we take the time to notice the ebb and flow of sensation, (our awareness, our breath), the act of self-stimulation becomes an internal dance of self-discovery and self-awakening.
When we approach self-stimulation with an attitude of self-love and exploration, a new realm of personal connection, personal intimacy, and personal empowerment is awakened.
No longer does our sexual satisfaction lie in the hands of another!
We become responsible for our own sexual enjoyment, and we become personally empowered by the ability to meet our own needs for sexual satisfaction.
#2) Another way in which self-pleasuring differs from masturbation is the time that we devote to the activity.
No more furtive rubbing under the sheets, choking back moans of pleasure, while we attempt to set a new world record for quickest climax!
Self-pleasuring is an act of love– we are literally making love with ourselves, and as we all know that takes time.
How much time is up to you, but I recommend setting aside a good half-hour to an hour at least, just to be with yourself and explore your sexual sensations.
#3) A third way in which self-pleasure differs from traditional masturbation, is in our motivation, our intention.
In masturbation, orgasm is the goal, and we are aiming to achieve that goal as quickly and quietly as possible.
With self-pleasuring, well, the pleasure itself is the goal…. and the self-discovery that arises naturally as a result of taking time and awareness to explore our sexuality.
My personal self-pleasuring practice has facilitated the healing of some of my deepest emotional wounds.
I have healed pains that I did not even know existed, and have been rewarded with greater self-connection, self-confidence, and an inner sense of personal empowerment that only comes from directly experiencing your darkest demons, and recognizing them as unclaimed fragments of your own soul.
It is a practice that I recommend to men and women professionally and privately, and an integral part in becoming a wholly integrated and healthy sexual human being.
To learn more about how you can use the sacred art of self-pleasuring to heal your body, mind, and spirit, please visit me at femininemergence.com and get your free E-Book, 7 Keys to Sensual Satisfaction + 3 Secrets to Better Love and Sex.
Sexual electricity infuses our every action. When our minds are freed from the tyranny of false virtue, social conditioning, and culturally enforced standards of normalcy, the true, innocent, and shameless expression of our inherent sexual nature is simply expressed.
Without thought, without intent, without fear, or guilt, or shame. We are simply, naturally, divinely, unavoidably sexual beings by nature…and there is nothing UN-sacred about us, at all…ever.
How do I choose to express my sexual energy? A better question would be, how do I not?
For once I became internally free of self, and societally imposed boundaries, there is no place the core essence of me does not go.
That is not to say that I act without discernment. Quite the contrary in fact.
The more sensually empowered I have become, the more connected I have become to the subtle, but flawless intuitive intelligence of my heart, my body, my womanhood.
As a result, I have learned to say “NO” to sexual encounters that were not truly nourishing for my heart.
Because of this, because I have learned to trust my internal “NO”, I am now free to wholly and truly trust my Yes. I trust my yes… I wholly and completely trust. My. Yes.
So how many are the myriad forms of sexual self-expression? Limitless. Limitless, as my sexuality infuses every word I say, every gesture, every nuance. The subtle language of self-acceptance underscoring every action, every thought, every breath.
I express my sexuality through song, through the heartfelt singing of my soul, as I fulfill my sexual appetite through the dancing, moving expression of sensual pleasure. Through the consciousness of my breathe. Through every movement attuned to the song of rapture, singing in my heart.
I express my sexuality with passion, as I cry tears of loss, and mourn another promise broken, another dream denied, another hope unrealized…. and yet I continue to love, continue to dream, continue to open….eternally.Ever open. Ever. Open.
I expres my sexuality through scent. Inhaling, consuming, devouring the essence of man, ripe and pungent. Naked and raw. I devour his sex/flesh as I devour food, with great relish, laughter, and enjoyment.
I express my sexuality through taste. I love the slippery wet taste-touch of his tongue to mine. The hot ache for union unfulfilled. The torment of a hunger unfed and a thirst yet unquenched. Again, again, again. Can I taste you again…..
I express my sexuality with fire. Hot, smoldering flames of passion and desire.
I bring this passion to life. I bring this passion to all of life, and it is this passion that makes life sacred, raw, real, and utterly divine. For there is nothing more divine than the carnal, mindless merging of body to body, and breath to breath.
To feel this deeply is sweet agony. Blissful & painful at once. It is what it is, to be human, really.
For the pain defines our pleasure, just as much as the pleasure defines our pain.
And in the realm of human existence, there is no escape from either.
As Gedun Chopel said, “if a man cannot retain his semen, a woman will never know the glories of passion”.
Glory by the way is translated as “lights, the lights of God”.
Men are capable of 5 different types of orgasm!
Men can and DO orgasm without ejaculating.
Ejaculation is just ONE flavor of orgasm!
In brief; a man squirts, losing his jing and passion, the loving is over, now he has to recover, which takes 4 to 8 days (by age).
He is turned inward energetically and… is not really available to his lover.
Also, she is unsatisfied and frustrated. The average time of penetration, until ejaculation is between 2 & 10 minutes. Think about it….it takes most people longer to brush their teeth!
By retaining he can make love for as long as he wants, and as he orgasms w/out squirt, he becomes stronger, healthier, and more present.
His orgasms feed his lover in many ways, and she is satisfied and happy w/ him.
He is not depleted and remains emotionally present w/out withdrawal.
This has a powerful effect on relationships!
The connection that results from such lovemaking is vastly deep and clear, blissful in fact.
And, he has no loss of desire for her, wanting her more than ever, and he is ready for her whenever she desires.
How do you think a woman will feel when a man takes several hours to pleasure and delight her in so many ways her head spins, and then he makes love to her until she has literally blown her mind?
Article written by Jacques Drouin