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He is polyamorous with a primary partner. He has been practicing tantra about one year, so I asked him how long since he had ejaculated. 8 months he said. I burst out laughing, “dude, you are a beginner, I said 6 to 8 weeks, not months, time to rip one off!!!”. He was delighted and said his wife was going to have great night!
The story is amusing but I thought I had better clarify this.
When we say semen retention, we don’t mean never ejaculate.
Ejaculatory Orgasms are one of our 6 wonderful male multiple orgasms!
It is excess frequency that is the liability.
So below I include some guidelines for men to manage their Jing (that is your juiciness guys, makes you sexy to girls, or guys if you swing that way):
These are guidelines, you are your own master, choose wisely your timing.
Life conditions also affect these time frames.
As a beginner proceed with patience and work towards a minimum base line of 6 weeks between ejaculations, while having NON-ejaculatory orgasms.
Maybe you can only do 2 to 3 weeks, OK, then 3 to 4 weeks, then 5 to 6, easy and relaxed.
This is of course with pleasuring or intercourse too, but not having ejaculation.
Proceeding like this will allow your chi to rebuild to the point you can have non-ejaculatory orgasms, from there they will grow in intensity, trust me!!
Also allows for deep vital organ repair and regeneration.
If you are solo; practicing tantra alone, work up to 3 months, range 6 weeks to 12 weeks.
If you are in a monogamous relationship; then work up to 3 months, range 9 to 12 weeks.
If you are polyamorous with more than one active partner; the energy, both yogic and emotional, will be much higher and can cause discomfort (as above).
In this case I suggest a baseline of 6 to 8 weeks maximum. When advanced you can adjust this per your own sensitivity to your levels and needs.
If you ejaculate less than once every 6 weeks you will have minimal to no recovery time, you will have built up some stores.
Do not ejaculate again within 8 days minimum or you will pay a price of depletion.
Unless you are solo, ejaculation should always be with a partner, sharing your essence with love on purpose, not as an accidental involuntary reflex.
Hey I know, accidents happen, but if it is regular it is not an accident it is lazy-mindedness!
Taoist sexual yoga states that the Taoist masters best frequency is ejaculate once every 100 sessions. That is a lot of counting, and we are not in caves or temples.
Yet if one practices daily 100 sessions is just over 3 months.
There you have it, if you have questions please ask, that is what I am here for.