Great Oral Sex Pt.3-Tongue Strokes, Semen Retention Questions & Female Ejaculation Techniques

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Another date night with Devi where she answers YOUR questions about sexuality, pleasure, intimacy, and relationships.

In this episode, Devi continues with how to give great oral sex, part 3. tantalizing tongue strokes, semen retention questions answered such as – HOW to orgasm without ejaculating, and proper technique for inducing Female Ejaculation.

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How To Lasting Longer & Multiple Orgasms For Men

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The main question men have is – HOW to do it effectively, and problems they have with the method they are using.

I remind all of you that Authentic Tantra is a secret oral tradition from great Lineages of masters, and you cannot learn Tantra from a book.

Anyone who possesses the real instruction is well aware of why it is secret and will not reveal it casually.

If they do they are irresponsible about others’ welfare. You don’t take someone who barely can paddle a surfboard big wave surfing, it won’t go well.

True instruction is based on progress. Soon you will be a big wave surfer ,so to speak, but first you must learn to paddle right or you will be stuck on the beach.

That being said, the urge to retain semen is human maturity, if you are an untrained 2 to 7 minute squirter (international average time of penetration), you are having sex like a 14 year old boy.

The method used to retain semen and last longer is critical.

Many men come to me and say something like “I tried semen retention, after a month I was so frustrated I gave up”.

My response is always the same… “what method did you use and did you orgasm without ejaculation?”

Not one ever had a non-ejaculatory orgasm, and all used about the same method.

Of course they were frustrated!!! I would be too. 

The basic default method most men try on their own or heard about but never studied is the “anal lock”method.

This involves tightening and holding the semen back with powerful contraction of the PC muscles.

Bottom line it is a shitty method.

Oh it will hold the semen back, but you will not enjoy it, and if you do it with a woman, they definitely do not enjoy it. I have had women come to me in tears because their partner used this method, that is how much they dislike it.

It can also over time lead to retrograde ejaculation which is not that good for us in excess, correct method has no retrograde aspect, instead the semen is transmuted into fabulous chemistries.

The anal lock uses tightness, contraction, witholding emotionally and energetically, all the very things that must be undone to actually orgasm without ejaculation!

So as you can guess I do not teach this useless method, in my opinion a waste of time at best, worse it can create blocks to bliss that require a lot of effort to overcome.

At Authentic Tantra, we teach 5 different semen retention methods for lasting longer in bed. Three are taught to beginners right away, the other 2 in advanced classes. These methods are simple, easy, natural, and very effective.

You can begin using them day-one with good result.

Some of my male students are having whole-body multiple non-ejaculatory orgasms within 1 or 2 years of learning!

This is an amazing result. The key lies in correct instruction and method.

They also were having other types of orgasm before the whole body orgasms began. Men are capable of 6 types of orgasm! Woohoo!

If you ejaculate you only know of 1.

Whole body orgasms for a man are an inconceivable experience. Trying to describe it is like describing any orgasm to someone who has never had one.

Have one and you will know a secret of the Tantric Arts of Love. And women will dig you!!!

The correct instructions are on-line at Authentic Tantra.

Please don’t tell me it costs too much. I watch people drop way more to go snowboarding for 1 day.

We are talking about your sexuality (and your lovers’) for the rest of your life!

I will give you all this core instruction:
All Tantra begins and ends in the heart, this is emotional, energetic and yogic. The fundamental principle of practice is “present relaxed awareness with focus”. Each of these 4 words comes with volumes of instruction, each an aspect of real Tantra, each must be in place , male or female, or good result will not be realized. Start now with each, the instructions for this are in “Intimacy Essentials” course.

In time it will become a single disposition, you will have peace of mind, happiness, calmness along with great sexual love and enjoyment.

I honour every single man who wants to learn this, by changing yourself you are changing the world in a powerful way, so thank you.

Peace and happiness,

Jacques Drouin

How Long Should You Retain Semen Between Ejaculations?

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I had a student call me from the Skytrain recently. He had just practiced Tantric breathing with a new friend, no sex, and was experiencing discomfort in his testicles.

He is polyamorous with a primary partner. He has been practicing tantra about one year, so I asked him how long since he had ejaculated. 8 months he said. I burst out laughing, “dude, you are a beginner, I said 6 to 8 weeks, not months, time to rip one off!!!”. He was delighted and said his wife was going to have great night!

The story is amusing but I thought I had better clarify this.

When we say semen retention, we don’t mean never ejaculate.

Ejaculatory Orgasms are one of our 6 wonderful male multiple orgasms!

It is excess frequency that is the liability.

So below I include some guidelines for men to manage their Jing (that is your juiciness guys, makes you sexy to girls, or guys if you swing that way):

These are guidelines, you are your own master, choose wisely your timing.

Life conditions also affect these time frames.

As a beginner proceed with patience and work towards a minimum base line of 6 weeks between ejaculations, while having NON-ejaculatory orgasms.

Maybe you can only do 2 to 3 weeks, OK, then 3 to 4 weeks, then 5 to 6, easy and relaxed.

This is of course with pleasuring or intercourse too, but not having ejaculation.

Proceeding like this will allow your chi to rebuild to the point you can have non-ejaculatory orgasms, from there they will grow in intensity, trust me!!

Also allows for deep vital organ repair and regeneration.

If you are solo; practicing tantra alone, work up to 3 months, range 6 weeks to 12 weeks.

If you are in a monogamous relationship; then work up to 3 months, range 9 to 12 weeks.

If you are polyamorous with more than one active partner; the energy, both yogic and emotional, will be much higher and can cause discomfort (as above).

In this case I suggest a baseline of 6 to 8 weeks maximum. When advanced you can adjust this per your own sensitivity to your levels and needs.

If you ejaculate less than once every 6 weeks you will have minimal to no recovery time, you will have built up some stores.

Do not ejaculate again within 8 days minimum or you will pay a price of depletion.

Unless you are solo, ejaculation should always be with a partner, sharing your essence with love on purpose, not as an accidental involuntary reflex.

Hey I know, accidents happen, but if it is regular it is not an accident it is lazy-mindedness!

Taoist sexual yoga states that the Taoist masters best frequency is ejaculate once every 100 sessions. That is a lot of counting, and we are not in caves or temples.

Yet if one practices daily 100 sessions is just over 3 months.

There you have it, if you have questions please ask, that is what I am here for.

Sincerely,

Jacques Drouin

Female Ejaculate~Nectar Of The Gods!

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Tantric “Sluts” or Living Goddesses: Why it Matters

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What is Tantric Sex?

Everything you ever wanted to know about Tantric Sex.

What it is, Where it came from, and How it works.

Described in detail by Authentic Tantra Educator, Jacques Drouin of Authentic Tantra.com, with stunning visuals to embellish the experience.

Find out for yourself what Tantric Sex is all about!

5 Surprising Health Benefits of Semen Retention!

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Glories of God? Retain Your Semen!

As Gedun Chopel said, “if a man cannot retain his semen, a woman will never know the glories of passion”.

Glory by the way is translated as “lights, the lights of God”.

 Men are capable of 5 different types of orgasm!

Men can and DO orgasm without ejaculating.

Ejaculation is just ONE  flavor of orgasm!

In brief; a man squirts, losing his jing and passion, the loving is over, now he has to recover, which takes 4 to 8 days (by age).

He is turned inward energetically and… is not really available to his lover.

Also, she is unsatisfied and frustrated. The average time of penetration, until ejaculation is between 2 & 10 minutes. Think about it….it takes most people longer to brush their teeth!

By retaining he can make love for as long as he wants, and as he orgasms w/out squirt, he becomes stronger, healthier, and more present.

His orgasms feed his lover in many ways, and she is satisfied and happy w/ him.

He is not depleted and remains emotionally present w/out withdrawal.

This has a powerful effect on relationships!

The connection that results from such lovemaking is vastly deep and clear, blissful in fact.

And, he has no loss of desire for her, wanting her more than ever, and he is ready for her whenever she desires.

How do you think a woman will feel when a man takes several hours to pleasure and delight her in so many ways her head spins, and then he makes love to her until she has literally blown her mind?

Interested in finding out?

Article  written by Jacques Drouin

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Hey Ladies… Here’s The Secret to Multiple Orgasms!

So the question is, if we are not currently orgasmic, or multi-orgasmic, how do we become so?

It helps to understand why we are NOT, so that we can address the core issue.

Women hold emotional/sexual stress or trauma in the vagina, most specifically the G-spot.

So any negative or painful sexual experience that we have had as adults or children, is stored as an emotional imprint in our sexual organs.

This emotional imprint deadens, or numbs the sensation in our sexual organs, so that we are unable to feel our full “pleasure potential”.

The medicine for this, so to speak, can be found in the application of Tantric methods such as, Vulva & G-spot massage, Tantric breathing methods, and healing visualizations.

I began this Tantric path  nearly 4 years ago, NON-orgasmic, intercourse was painful, and I did not believe in this mysterious G-spot.

I now can have as many as 10-30 orgasms in a session, I ejaculate regularly, and I have experienced at least 5 of the 8 types of orgasms that women are capable of.

It truly, truly, is a simple as learning WHAT to do, HOW to do, WHY you do it, and then DOING IT!

Semen Retention…What is it & Why Bother?

As a Tantric Sexuality Educator, one of the fundamental methods that we teach for prolonging sexual pleasure is the art of semen retention. But what is semen retention and why would one bother learning it, much less incorporating it into everyday sexuality?

Semen Retention has several different purposes, the ultimate being the cultivation of male multiple, whole-body orgasms, as well as the conservation of life-giving, anti-aging chemistries, that are generated in a man’s body during sexual arousal.

Very few people are aware that orgasm and ejaculation are actually 2 separate functions of the nervous system, and can be differentiated to the point where men are able to have a full orgasmic experience with no emission.

Dr. Charles Buchar states – ” Orgasm is a peak emotional and physical experience (relating to the parasympathetic nervous system), whereas ejaculation is simply a reflex action occurring at the lower portion of the spinal cord and resulting in ejection of semen.”

By using physical semen retention techniques or “holds”, a man is able to relax into the sensation of orgasm, without the fear of losing his essence, thus prolonging the orgasmic experience and paving the way for multiple orgasms.

The more these techniques are practiced, the easier and more natural it becomes for a man to orgasm without ejaculation.

At a certain point, most men actually prefer this type of orgasm, as it lasts significantly longer than an ejaculatory orgasm, and has the potential to be more powerful, intensely pleasurable, and downright delicious!

Most of our male students have immediately identified with the sense of physical depletion that usually follows an ejaculatory orgasm. Men rolling over and falling asleep after lovemaking is a socially accepted and supported norm. Men often use ejaculatory orgasms to “relax”, not understanding that it’s the orgasm that relaxes the body, not the ejaculation.

As a result, many conventional western sexologists actually contribute to the perpetuation of sexual difficulties, by suggesting that regular ejaculation is “good for you”.

Taoist Masters (such as Mantak Chia) have taught Semen Retention for centuries, as a method for cultivating health, longevity, and for correcting sexual dysfunctions such as Erectile Dysfunction and Premature Ejaculation.

This ancient approach to physical and sexual health can also contribute greatly to the health and happiness of our intimate relationships.

In his book “The Tao of Health, Sex and Longevity” Daniel Reid sheds some light on how semen retention can actually enhance relationships by stating – ‘ Semen essence is the fuel that drives male sexuality. It is the source not only of physical capacity for sex, but also of sexual interest and emotional affection for the opposite gender.’

Thus – “A man who maintains consistently high levels of testosterone, sperm, semen, and other male essences by practicing ejaculatory control will experience an overwhelming enhancement in his love and affection for his woman. He will also gain the capacity to act upon that loving urge over and over again.”  Good news for us women!

Aside from cultivating multiple orgasms and enriching physical health, another advantage of practicing semen retention is the ability to prolong the experience of sexual union.

The average time of penetration until ejaculation is between 2-7 minutes. Wow! Very few women that I know are able to reach orgasm in as little as 2-7 minutes, and thus are left with a subtle sense of disappointment over and over again.

If left unchanged, this may lead to a persistent sense of sexual dissatisfaction, and resentment between partners.

Most men that I encounter have a sincere desire to pleasure their women for long periods of time, but the urge to ejaculate can be so overwhelming that they are unable to resist.

By both partners knowing and using semen retention techniques together, the experience of sexual union can last for as long as you both desire!

The process of learning and communicating about the methods themselves, can be a fun and playful experience that enhances  intimacy, and creates a greater sense of openness and trust for you both.

Also, when the period of actual penetration is extended, it allows for a depth of emotional connection and spiritual communion that is just not possible to achieve in 10 minutes or less.

When a man is willing to retain his semen essence for long periods of time, it sends the powerful message that he is just as invested in his partners orgasm, as he is his own.

Semen Retention WITH orgasm, is a powerful method for cultivating physical/sexual health and longevity, as well as enhancing relationships by cultivating sexual communication skills, and ensuring sexual satisfaction for both partners.

In my opinion, a man’s willingness to practicing semen retention is an un-equivocal demonstration of his commitment to the health and happiness of our connection.

To learn several highly effective, fun, and easy methods of semen retention, and learn how to become a  ‘multi-orgasmic man’ please see our Semen Retention Mastery ~ Authentic Tantra Online Education Course