What is Tantric Sex?

Everything you ever wanted to know about Tantric Sex.

What it is, Where it came from, and How it works.

Described in detail by Authentic Tantra Educator, Jacques Drouin of Authentic Tantra.com, with stunning visuals to embellish the experience.

Find out for yourself what Tantric Sex is all about!

Organic Love Butter Recipe

For a sweet holiday treat~

Take equal parts organic coconut oil & organic coco butter.

Melt on the stove, stirring it as you go.

When both butters are completely melted and mixed together, pour into a bottle and keep warm, but not hot.

Pour the warmed oil directly on your partners genitals and lick for a choclately-coconut delight!

Yummmm!

3 Differences Between Masturbation and Self-Pleasure

Devi Ward TantraI read an article recently by a woman describing the differences between how men fantasize about us masturbating, and how most of us women actually do masturbate, which she described as a somewhat half-hazard, fast and furtive process.

Her description of female masturbation seemed very similar to the way a 14 year old boy probably masturbates, under the covers at night, stifling his sounds of pleasure, hoping -to -god no one comes in before he’s finished.

Hell, forget a 14 year old boy, that sounds like the masturbation modus operandis of most adults I know, both men and women.

Minding our P’s and Q’s…Privately, Quietly and Quickly!

Which got me to thinking about the differences between masturbation and self-pleasure.

Masturbation of course, would be the familiar scenario which I described above- one which 99.9% of adult humans can probably relate to.

So what is self-pleasuring? And how (besides the name), does it differ from our usual self-stroking?

#1) The first difference is my state of mind.

We have been taught as a society that self-stimulation is shameful, wrong, dirty, embarassing, etc.

We know that people do it, (especially men), and it’s accepted that they do, but it’s frequently thought of as a way to release physical and emotional “urges”.

Essentially a way to get rid of “too much” energy or emotional agitation. A form of stress release. Which yes, absolutely it is.

But that’s not ALL self-stimualtion can be used for- as just a genital pressure valve so to speak.

If we approach self-stimualtion from only that angle, our focus is mostly on the end result of the journey, and not on the sweet subtle communications of our body, which occur along the road to orgasm.

These subtle fluctuations of pleasure, energy and arousal are a sort of language, and when we take the time to notice the ebb and flow of sensation, (our awareness, our breath), the act of self-stimulation becomes an internal dance of self-discovery and self-awakening.

When we approach self-stimulation with an attitude of  self-love and exploration, a new realm of personal connection, personal intimacy, and personal empowerment is awakened.

No longer does our sexual satisfaction lie in the hands of another!

We become responsible for our own sexual enjoyment, and we become personally empowered by the ability to meet our own needs for sexual satisfaction.

#2) Another  way in which self-pleasuring differs from masturbation is the time that we devote to the activity.

No more furtive rubbing under the sheets, choking back moans of pleasure, while we attempt to set a new world record for quickest climax!

Self-pleasuring is an act of love– we are literally making love with ourselves, and as we all know that takes time.

How much time is up to you, but I recommend setting aside a good half-hour to an hour at least, just to be with yourself and explore your sexual sensations.

#3) A third way in which self-pleasure differs from traditional masturbation, is in our motivation, our intention.

In masturbation, orgasm is the goal, and we are aiming to achieve that goal as quickly and quietly as possible.

With self-pleasuring, well, the pleasure itself is the goal…. and the self-discovery that arises naturally as a result of taking time and awareness to explore our sexuality.

My personal self-pleasuring practice has facilitated the healing of some of my deepest emotional wounds.

I have healed pains that I did not even know existed, and have been rewarded with greater self-connection, self-confidence, and an inner sense of personal empowerment that only comes from directly experiencing your darkest demons, and recognizing them as unclaimed fragments of your own soul.

It is a practice that I recommend to men and women professionally and privately, and an integral part in becoming a wholly integrated and healthy sexual human being. 

To learn more about how you can use the sacred art of self-pleasuring to heal your body, mind, and spirit, please visit me at femininemergence.com and get your free E-Book, 7 Keys to Sensual Satisfaction + 3 Secrets to Better Love and Sex.

Sacred Passion

Sexual electricity infuses our every action. When our minds are freed from the tyranny of false virtue, social conditioning, and culturally enforced standards of normalcy, the true, innocent, and shameless expression of our inherent sexual nature is simply expressed.

Without thought, without intent, without fear, or guilt, or shame. We are simply, naturally, divinely, unavoidably sexual beings by nature…and there is nothing UN-sacred about us, at all…ever.

How do I choose to express my sexual energy? A better question would be, how do I not?

For once I became internally free of self, and societally imposed boundaries, there is no place the core essence of me does not go.

That is not to say that I act without discernment. Quite the contrary in fact.

The more sensually empowered I have become, the more connected I have become to the subtle, but flawless intuitive intelligence of my heart, my body, my womanhood.

As a result, I have learned to say “NO” to sexual encounters that were not truly nourishing for my heart.

Because of this, because I have learned to trust my internal “NO”, I am now free to wholly and truly trust my Yes. I trust my yes… I wholly and completely trust. My. Yes.

So how many are the myriad forms of sexual self-expression? Limitless. Limitless, as my sexuality infuses every word I say, every gesture, every nuance. The subtle language of self-acceptance underscoring every action, every thought, every breath.

I express my sexuality through song, through the heartfelt singing of my soul, as I fulfill my sexual appetite through the dancing, moving expression of sensual pleasure. Through the consciousness of my  breathe. Through every movement attuned to the song of rapture, singing in my heart.

I express my sexuality with passion, as I cry tears of loss, and mourn another promise broken, another dream denied, another hope unrealized…. and yet I continue to love, continue to dream, continue to open….eternally.Ever open. Ever. Open.

I expres my sexuality through scent. Inhaling, consuming, devouring the essence of man, ripe and pungent. Naked and raw. I devour his sex/flesh as I devour food, with great relish, laughter, and enjoyment.

I express my sexuality through taste. I love the slippery wet taste-touch of his tongue to mine. The hot ache for union unfulfilled. The torment of a hunger unfed and a thirst yet unquenched. Again, again, again. Can I taste you again…..

I express my sexuality with fire. Hot, smoldering flames of passion and desire.

I bring this passion to life. I bring this passion to all of life, and it is this passion that makes life sacred, raw, real, and utterly divine. For there is nothing more divine than the carnal, mindless merging of  body to body, and breath to breath.

To feel this deeply is sweet agony. Blissful & painful at once. It is what it is, to be human, really.

For the pain defines our pleasure, just as much as the pleasure defines our pain.

And in the realm of human existence, there is no escape from either.

Glories of God? Retain Your Semen!

As Gedun Chopel said, “if a man cannot retain his semen, a woman will never know the glories of passion”.

Glory by the way is translated as “lights, the lights of God”.

 Men are capable of 5 different types of orgasm!

Men can and DO orgasm without ejaculating.

Ejaculation is just ONE  flavor of orgasm!

In brief; a man squirts, losing his jing and passion, the loving is over, now he has to recover, which takes 4 to 8 days (by age).

He is turned inward energetically and… is not really available to his lover.

Also, she is unsatisfied and frustrated. The average time of penetration, until ejaculation is between 2 & 10 minutes. Think about it….it takes most people longer to brush their teeth!

By retaining he can make love for as long as he wants, and as he orgasms w/out squirt, he becomes stronger, healthier, and more present.

His orgasms feed his lover in many ways, and she is satisfied and happy w/ him.

He is not depleted and remains emotionally present w/out withdrawal.

This has a powerful effect on relationships!

The connection that results from such lovemaking is vastly deep and clear, blissful in fact.

And, he has no loss of desire for her, wanting her more than ever, and he is ready for her whenever she desires.

How do you think a woman will feel when a man takes several hours to pleasure and delight her in so many ways her head spins, and then he makes love to her until she has literally blown her mind?

Interested in finding out?

Article  written by Jacques Drouin

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I’ll Show You Mine….Take 2

With the goal of debunking society’s artificial standards for normalcy and beauty in female genitalia, Show Off Books released its first book, I’ll Show You Mine. A unique resource tool, ISYM contains 60 women shown in life-size full color photographs coupled with in-their-own-words stories of their experiences of sexuality in our society

 

 

Devis’ Vagina Monologue – Take 2

My Name is Devi and this is my Yoni.

Until very recently, my primary relationship with my Yoni was one of subtle shame, though if you had asked me at the time, I would have described the feeling as “shy”. Shy, and slightly embarrassed, and in absolute fear about communicating verbally to a man about which sensations were pleasurable, and which were not. I would not have described myself as sexually repressed in any way, quite the opposite in fact. I considered myself very sexually open and expressive, and probably was by conventional standards.  During the 2-7 minutes of sexual intercourse that is considered “normal” in conventional western sexuality, I remember experiencing pain in some areas of my yoni and thinking that was natural. I remember that just about the time I started to really FEEL pleasure during sex, the man would ejaculate, and it would be over. I remember having this internal sense of being rushed during oral sex, like I needed to hurry up and come as quickly as I could, because lord knows he won’t be down there for long! And gosh, if on the rare occasion he was, I felt embarrassed and uncomfortable, and had a sense of doing him a great disservice by taking so long….just fuck me now o.k?

I had my first Vulva massage at the age of 33. It lasted 5 hours and consisted entirely of my Tantric Healer massaging, exploring and pleasuring my vulva and vagina, while I verbally communicated to him about pressure, sensation, pleasure and pain. I discovered that numb and painful places inside the yoni are NOT “natural” and are indicative of subtle traumas held in the sexual organs. I discovered that every one of those physical pains had an emotional or psychological pain to go with it, and that with breath, touch, and awareness, those pains could be healed. I sat naked and upright in a chair, with the lights on and my legs spread wide open, and nowhere to hide for 5 hours. I discovered how difficult it was to stay present, and receive this touch that had no demand for a particular response. I saw for the first time how the subconscious sense of shame that I had about my yoni kept me from being able to express my pleasure openly, and completely inhibited my ability to give my partners guidance about what pressure, sensation, or stroke I would enjoy even more. Over the last 3 years I have discovered that my Yoni can have at least 5 different kinds of orgasms, and I can distinguish between an orgasm that occurs at the front, middle, or back of my g-spot. I regularly have anywhere from 10-15 orgasms in a row as easily as breathing, and I ejaculate regularly. My Yoni is now a gateway to mind-melting experiences of orgasmic pleasure and bliss, and I can confidently say that this is the potential of every Yoni on the planet.

My name is Devi and I am so honored and grateful that this is my Yoni.

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