Yin and Yang ~ The Key To Sexual Harmony

Sexual HarmonyYin = feminine, yield/opens, soothes, nurtures, cooling.
Yang = masculine, penetrates, protects, challenges, warming.

Understand this & you will know how to live masculine & feminine polarized in bliss & love.

Do not make the error of attaching to one, both are always merging and becoming the other.

Women must learn to be strong without trying to be like men. It was useful to gain equality and rights, but now it can be an impediment in our sexual culture.

The power of woman is Yin, it is actually stated in some Taoist texts that yin is more powerful, as yin can yield and open to absorb all yang, she is flexible, like a willow tree in the wind, not like an oak tree.

Oak challenges the wind with firmness, and big branches break. The willow just flows and bends, very few branches fall.

Look to the power of Tai Chi, no resistance, bends & flows around the challenge-energy of attack.

The more the challenge-energy attacks, the more there is for the tai chi to overcome that very force, or embrace it and bring it to harmony & peace. Do you see?

The power of woman is magnificent, but not if she tries to use male force against, or in relationship, with male force.

There will only be pain for both.

Women, dance in polarity, openness & yielding in love, blissful, strong at heart, balanced.

Men, protect her, challenge her with love and you will both grow, lovingly penetrate her deeply for long periods of time, hours, without ejaculation and she will treat you like a king, and you will retain your strength, unafraid of woman power.

If we do this the patriarchy that is terrified of women will fall. Then there will be harmony. Get to work!

Learn more about Lasting Longer for Men and The Art of Female Pleasure at www.betterloveandsex.com.

How To Lasting Longer & Multiple Orgasms For Men

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The main question men have is – HOW to do it effectively, and problems they have with the method they are using.

I remind all of you that Authentic Tantra is a secret oral tradition from great Lineages of masters, and you cannot learn Tantra from a book.

Anyone who possesses the real instruction is well aware of why it is secret and will not reveal it casually.

If they do they are irresponsible about others’ welfare. You don’t take someone who barely can paddle a surfboard big wave surfing, it won’t go well.

True instruction is based on progress. Soon you will be a big wave surfer ,so to speak, but first you must learn to paddle right or you will be stuck on the beach.

That being said, the urge to retain semen is human maturity, if you are an untrained 2 to 7 minute squirter (international average time of penetration), you are having sex like a 14 year old boy.

The method used to retain semen and last longer is critical.

Many men come to me and say something like “I tried semen retention, after a month I was so frustrated I gave up”.

My response is always the same… “what method did you use and did you orgasm without ejaculation?”

Not one ever had a non-ejaculatory orgasm, and all used about the same method.

Of course they were frustrated!!! I would be too. 

The basic default method most men try on their own or heard about but never studied is the “anal lock”method.

This involves tightening and holding the semen back with powerful contraction of the PC muscles.

Bottom line it is a shitty method.

Oh it will hold the semen back, but you will not enjoy it, and if you do it with a woman, they definitely do not enjoy it. I have had women come to me in tears because their partner used this method, that is how much they dislike it.

It can also over time lead to retrograde ejaculation which is not that good for us in excess, correct method has no retrograde aspect, instead the semen is transmuted into fabulous chemistries.

The anal lock uses tightness, contraction, witholding emotionally and energetically, all the very things that must be undone to actually orgasm without ejaculation!

So as you can guess I do not teach this useless method, in my opinion a waste of time at best, worse it can create blocks to bliss that require a lot of effort to overcome.

At Authentic Tantra, we teach 5 different semen retention methods for lasting longer in bed. Three are taught to beginners right away, the other 2 in advanced classes. These methods are simple, easy, natural, and very effective.

You can begin using them day-one with good result.

Some of my male students are having whole-body multiple non-ejaculatory orgasms within 1 or 2 years of learning!

This is an amazing result. The key lies in correct instruction and method.

They also were having other types of orgasm before the whole body orgasms began. Men are capable of 6 types of orgasm! Woohoo!

If you ejaculate you only know of 1.

Whole body orgasms for a man are an inconceivable experience. Trying to describe it is like describing any orgasm to someone who has never had one.

Have one and you will know a secret of the Tantric Arts of Love. And women will dig you!!!

The correct instructions are on-line at Authentic Tantra.

Please don’t tell me it costs too much. I watch people drop way more to go snowboarding for 1 day.

We are talking about your sexuality (and your lovers’) for the rest of your life!

I will give you all this core instruction:
All Tantra begins and ends in the heart, this is emotional, energetic and yogic. The fundamental principle of practice is “present relaxed awareness with focus”. Each of these 4 words comes with volumes of instruction, each an aspect of real Tantra, each must be in place , male or female, or good result will not be realized. Start now with each, the instructions for this are in “Intimacy Essentials” course.

In time it will become a single disposition, you will have peace of mind, happiness, calmness along with great sexual love and enjoyment.

I honour every single man who wants to learn this, by changing yourself you are changing the world in a powerful way, so thank you.

Peace and happiness,

Jacques Drouin

How Long Should You Retain Semen Between Ejaculations?

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I had a student call me from the Skytrain recently. He had just practiced Tantric breathing with a new friend, no sex, and was experiencing discomfort in his testicles.

He is polyamorous with a primary partner. He has been practicing tantra about one year, so I asked him how long since he had ejaculated. 8 months he said. I burst out laughing, “dude, you are a beginner, I said 6 to 8 weeks, not months, time to rip one off!!!”. He was delighted and said his wife was going to have great night!

The story is amusing but I thought I had better clarify this.

When we say semen retention, we don’t mean never ejaculate.

Ejaculatory Orgasms are one of our 6 wonderful male multiple orgasms!

It is excess frequency that is the liability.

So below I include some guidelines for men to manage their Jing (that is your juiciness guys, makes you sexy to girls, or guys if you swing that way):

These are guidelines, you are your own master, choose wisely your timing.

Life conditions also affect these time frames.

As a beginner proceed with patience and work towards a minimum base line of 6 weeks between ejaculations, while having NON-ejaculatory orgasms.

Maybe you can only do 2 to 3 weeks, OK, then 3 to 4 weeks, then 5 to 6, easy and relaxed.

This is of course with pleasuring or intercourse too, but not having ejaculation.

Proceeding like this will allow your chi to rebuild to the point you can have non-ejaculatory orgasms, from there they will grow in intensity, trust me!!

Also allows for deep vital organ repair and regeneration.

If you are solo; practicing tantra alone, work up to 3 months, range 6 weeks to 12 weeks.

If you are in a monogamous relationship; then work up to 3 months, range 9 to 12 weeks.

If you are polyamorous with more than one active partner; the energy, both yogic and emotional, will be much higher and can cause discomfort (as above).

In this case I suggest a baseline of 6 to 8 weeks maximum. When advanced you can adjust this per your own sensitivity to your levels and needs.

If you ejaculate less than once every 6 weeks you will have minimal to no recovery time, you will have built up some stores.

Do not ejaculate again within 8 days minimum or you will pay a price of depletion.

Unless you are solo, ejaculation should always be with a partner, sharing your essence with love on purpose, not as an accidental involuntary reflex.

Hey I know, accidents happen, but if it is regular it is not an accident it is lazy-mindedness!

Taoist sexual yoga states that the Taoist masters best frequency is ejaculate once every 100 sessions. That is a lot of counting, and we are not in caves or temples.

Yet if one practices daily 100 sessions is just over 3 months.

There you have it, if you have questions please ask, that is what I am here for.

Sincerely,

Jacques Drouin

Female Ejaculate~Nectar Of The Gods!

Vancouver Tantra with Jacques Drouin

Female ejaculate is called “amrita”, which means “nectar of bliss”. If a woman is basically healthy and emotionaly balanced it is a healing elixir for men, (it actually is an elixir of longevity for men, so in such a case … Continue reading