The Nasty Little Sexual Secret You Keep Inside….

Devi Ward Tantra for womenIf you don’t yet understand how vital consciously addressing your sexuality is for your emotional, mental, and physical health, and more importantly, for you to feel CONNECTED to your SELF/God/human essence, I am no longer on a mission to convince you.

Because somewhere, deep down inside, each and every woman knows she has a nasty little secret that she is afraid to admit to herself.

And this nasty little secret rises up again and again, only to be choked back and pushed down, after every marginally satisfying sexual encounter in which you are left with a dull ache inside after he “comes too quick”. Or you spend the entire encounter think “a little” to the left, but are too afraid of what he or she might think, to actually SAY IT out loud.

It shows up after every time you ALMOST reach orgasm, but not quite, because you can’t turn your mind off and actually FEEL your body.

It’s that subtle sense of confusion you have after he rolls off you when he’s done, (and you just started!), and the almost imperceptible but oh- so- familiar doubt and insecurity that arises when you hear about orgasms, and realize that you rarely have them…but should you be?

Is there something wrong with you because you can’t orgasm in the 2-7 minutes of penetration that he’s giving you?

Or that you JUST CAN”T  COME when he or she goes down on you, cuz they aren’t-quite-on-the-spot, and you think to yourself – “oh shit I’m taking too long, and they’re probably getting tired, and, and, and…”

This nasty little secret is the fact that you are unsatisfied, and you don’t feel like you have the right to be. You are secretly afraid that there is something wrong with you because you don’t/can’t orgasm during sex, or infrequently orgasm, or don’t have multiple orgasms, or any orgasm at all EVER.

You hear all this talk about sex and orgasm, and you shrivel inside, or do your best to ignore it, because it just makes you feel more inadequate.

So instead of acknowledging that you are unhappy with your current sexual experience, and that there could possibly be more, you push those subtle thoughts and emotions down, down, down, where they get lodged more and more deeply in your sexual tissue and emotional psyche, thus making you less sensitive to pleasure, less self-expressed, and even more trapped in your head.

Your sexual happiness and ability to receive PLEASURE directly correlates to your sense of self-worth and what you feel you deserve in life.

I know, I have been there, am there, and continue to chip away at the residue left there by past emotional trauma, cultural conditioning, and sexual abuse.

Deep, deep, and maybe not so deep down, you are aware that there is some vital key ingredient lacking in your life, and chances are you experience this lacking most keenly in regards to your ability to experience sexual pleasure.

And you KNOW this already.

So no amount of writing, or speaking, or reciting statistics is going to convince you.

Because until you are willing to admit to yourself that there IS a problem Houston, there is nothing I can do, or say, to win you over.

Until you are ready to LOOK at your SEX, look at it, just look at it.

Without judgement, or fear, or shame, or anything at all.

Just look objectively and say, “ya know, I would like this to be different. I would like this to be better than it is, because I deserve to feel PLEASURE, and I am willing to give myself a chance to experience more of that.”

Until you get to the point where you are ready to take action, and invest some time, some energy, and yes some money, there is nothing I, or anyone eles can do about it.

But when you are ready to bring that nasty little secret you are carrying out into the light, please know that there is help.

Please know that chances are you are not alone.

Know that it will take time, and sometimes some effort, and some commitment on your part to experience growth and change.

But know that the light at the end of the tunnel IS YOU.

It is the missing, forgotten fragment of your sexual soul, and it is calling you to come home.

Are you ready to heal yourself? Are you ready to come home?

Then pick up your copy of Shake Your Soul -Song!A Woman’s Guide to Self-Empowerment Through The Art Of Self-Pleasure, or Contact me to find out more.

6 thoughts on “The Nasty Little Sexual Secret You Keep Inside….

  1. I believe sexuality and spirituality are profoundly connected. I’m not inhibited myself and rarely experience problems with orgasm. But my husband….oh boy! He seems to have decided that sex comes with limitations…like…we made love yesterday so we can’t possibly make it work again today. So much self fulfilling prophecy and so much inhibition with regard to the sex itself, which I consider both sacred and downright saucy if ‘done’ right. I feel constantly dissatisfied because of these ‘limitations’ he places on me/us. I feel I have no control over my own body and sexuality…and that’s a bitter pill for an independent soul like me. This is not my first marriage and I’m in my fifties, still with a high libido…and the last thing I expected was to have to sit about twiddling my thumbs while he has his days and days off just to feel as though he has the stamina to go ahead. I’m kind of tired of it. But I love him and he’s basically a good guy. Any suggestions? And thank you for your forthright words. It’s so refreshing to hear that I’m not ‘abnormal’, which is how my husband sometimes likes to paint me. Love and light.

    • Yes!Thank-you for your words, and YES! I have a suggestion.

      You and Your husband need to learn Seme Retention. Men are physically, emotionally, and energetically DRAINED from ejaculation! You’re poor husband literally depletes his life-force every time he has sex and ejaculates. Orgasm and ejaculation are 2 separate functions of the nervous system and can very easily be separated with the correct instruction.

      We have video instruction available in Semen Retention, G-spot massage, The Art of Male Pleasure, all these things on our website http://www.authentictantra.com OR, I also do private coaching long-distance, and can personally teach you these methods. Let me know what you think, and thanks again for your comment!

  2. The post by ‘missmin’ must be why I continually attract men half my age. I’m also in my fifties and have an incredibly high libido, so I have been told. Seems “Normal” to me 🙂 My problem is that I have difficulty finding a lover who is into tantra! Frustrates me to no end. My lovers & I will speak about it. I have encouraged them to view your videos and told them of the ones I have watched, but when it comes to connecting, they are afraid as ever to emotional & spiritually connect with me. I’ve asked why. There are no answers. I’ve asked if they are afraid I will hurt them, if they are afraid of being vulnerable, & if they are afraid I’m gonna somehow commandeer their souls. The last one I say in jest, but I’m thinking it’s the more accurate answer. That and the fear of emotional intimacy. I do not know how to get them past their fears, however, I certainly understand them!

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