My latest 8 week Sacred Erotic Dance Series began on April 18th, 2012.
20 women of all ages, shapes, sizes, and ethnicities filled the dance space to begin their own personal journey of sensual healing and empowerment, through Sacred Erotic Dance™.
After our first class ended, many of the women approached me to express their feelings of excitement, exhilaration, gratitude, and enjoyment for the emotional, mental, and physical healing power of this particular movement modality.
The conversation got me thinking about what makes Sacred Erotic Dance™ so, well…. Sacred?
There are a few different answers to that question, and they begin with understanding more about how the mind, body, & emotions work together, to create our internal and external experiences.
We are all familiar with the idea of holding tension, or stress in the body. In our shoulders, our backs, etc. We also store tension, stress, and emotions deep in the cellular tissue of our bodies. So not just the surface muscles are affected by tension, but the actual cells themselves hold trapped energy, tension, trauma, stress.
What causes stress? We often think that the cause of our stress is external, and that does play a part in it. But the true cause of stress is our relationship to our external life circumstances, not the circumstances themselves.
We are born into, grow-up, and live in a culture, (planet really) that has a challenging relationship with sexuality, and sexual expression.
As women, we are quite literally programmed with the subtle suggestion that “good girls don’t and bad girl’s do”.
Do what? Enjoy sex, embody sex, are empowered in sex. Right?
What subtle emotional reaction do you have when you think of “embodying sex”?
My mind immediately went to images of Jessica Rabbit, seductress, something smoky, alluring, and slightly dangerous.
Something to be regarded with caution, safe on the movie screen and in fantasy, but not real life. Something other than me.
This is an example of the subconscious, subtle programming to which I am referring. As women, we are conditioned to fear not just our own sexuality, but that of other women as well.
And we are terrified of fully embodying our sexuality (whatever that may look like), because of the largely unspoken cultural prohibitions against doing so.
Yet, we are encouraged through media that “sex sells” and we need to be “sexy” to get the right guy.
So it’s okay for us to look sexy (within certain social accepted boundaries), but not to truly own & “embody” fully empowered sexual expression.
Part of the issue is that we simply don’t have many role models for what healthy and empowered sexuality looks like.
Our sex symbols generally have some stigma associated with them as well. Marilyn Monroe was an emotional mess, Angelina Joile is a homewrecker, etc.
And, the only women that we visually see fully engaging in sexual pleasure are porn stars, and the social stigma associated with that goes without mention.
So the point in all of this, is that, our emotional relationship to our sexuality is largely determined by our social and cultural conditioning.
And the conflicting messages that we receive growing up and living in this culture, result in a dysfunctional relationship to our sexuality as women, and an internal emotional landscape of confusion, fear, guilt, repression, curiosity, you name it.
This emotional confusion get stored in the physical body, particularly the pelvic region, as this is where we store most of our sexual-life energy.
This emotional confusion works effectively to create a sort of psychological chastity belt, that then translates to how we move in our bodies, how we “embody”.
Sacred Erotic Dance is designed to be the medicine healing cure for this. Movement is medicine, Pleasure is medicine, so we combine both of those very potent remedies into one, to create freedom, transformation, healing and growth.
The foundation of Sacred Erotic Dance™ are the 5 core pelvic movements, combined with Authentic Tantra™ methods, breath, awareness, and presence.
Each of the 5 core pelvic movements is designed to open a new area of your body, expand your range of pelvic motion, shake off the psychological chastity belt of social sexual conditioning, and liberate you to your true sensual potential as a woman.
That is what makes Erotic Dance Sacred.
It is a process of healing, transformation, personal sensual empowerment, sexual embodiment, and growth.
It is a process in which you will reclaim and reawaken aspects of yourself that have been latent, lain dormant under the unspoken suggestion by our society, that you as a women are not allowed to truly embody your divine feminine essence. That to fully embody your sexuality as a woman is not acceptable, and further more, it is not safe.
Through Sacred Erotic Dance™, you will begin to cultivate a relationship of playfulness, healthy curiosity, and self-exploration.
Together in class, we celebrate the sexiness of our sisters, as we reclaim the sexiness of ourselves.
It is an environment of co-creation, collaboration, encouragement and mutual support.
It is sacred sisterhood, the true relationship of fully empowered women.
What is Sacred about Sacred Erotic Dance? It can be unique & different for every woman, yet similar and congruent with the all.
Join me, Devi Ward and Feminine Emergence, and find out for yourself what makes Sacred Erotic Dance so very sacred.